"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Zhen

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So last saturday I took this girl to the freshman formal and we danced, made out, and cuddled. Now we're officially bf/gf situation. I talked w/ her last night and she wants to take this slow and get to know each other more before we move ahead. She liked what happened Saturday night but apparently thinks it was fast. She didn't expect me to take her behind the curtains on the dancefloor and kiss her:D

Also, this girl wanted to sit down at a lounge while we were leaving the club... but it was empty so we were all alone... do you guys think she wanted me to make a move? because i did while we were sitting on the couch

Question is how do I get her to want it more than I do? I'm trying to seduce her more than have it seem like I'm the one wanting all the physical stuff.

No dumb**** answers please.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mind control chip implanted in the back of the right ear should work
 

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she'll grace herself into it just keep doing what you're doing. Just respect her if she says a firm "No!" ie the Rape call.
 

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Just out of curiosity... You're 17 but you went to the Freshman Formal? Are you a freshman, or is she?

Moved to HS...
 

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freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she's a sophomore and i'm a freshman at the same uni:p

supergigolodj, i straight up asked her if we were bf/gf coz my last relationship was not clear so i had to get **** straightened out first hand... so being exclusive/ not exclusive is out of the question...

i'll keep the second point in mind though... what else you guys got?
 

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Originally posted by Zhen
freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
wow

Your getting a b-itch slap for talking to a mod like that, cause thats just stupid.

idiot :rolleyes:
 

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i think mr. debonaire is a *****

apparently i'm the first guy she's kissed and although she's 20, she's never thought of kissing a guy until it's a serious relationship.

it's gonna be fun taking her out of that shell:)
 

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When a girl says "we're moving to fast" I hear "I really like you but I don't want you to think I'm an easy slut"

Now personally I would use one of David DeAngelo's techniques, which is Two steps forward, one step back and build the anicipation.

This has worked good for me in the past.

Two steps forward and one step back means advancing then pulling back a bit.

Next time your sitting on the couch try this. Hold her hand for a bit then let go, lean back and keep talking.

Then after a few minutes kiss her for a bit, pull back and keep talking.

Keep advancing this way and let me know how it works.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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