"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So last saturday I took this girl to the freshman formal and we danced, made out, and cuddled. Now we're officially bf/gf situation. I talked w/ her last night and she wants to take this slow and get to know each other more before we move ahead. She liked what happened Saturday night but apparently thinks it was fast. She didn't expect me to take her behind the curtains on the dancefloor and kiss her:D

Also, this girl wanted to sit down at a lounge while we were leaving the club... but it was empty so we were all alone... do you guys think she wanted me to make a move? because i did while we were sitting on the couch

Question is how do I get her to want it more than I do? I'm trying to seduce her more than have it seem like I'm the one wanting all the physical stuff.

No dumb**** answers please.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mind control chip implanted in the back of the right ear should work
 

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she'll grace herself into it just keep doing what you're doing. Just respect her if she says a firm "No!" ie the Rape call.
 

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Just out of curiosity... You're 17 but you went to the Freshman Formal? Are you a freshman, or is she?

Moved to HS...
 

Zhen

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freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Zhen

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she's a sophomore and i'm a freshman at the same uni:p

supergigolodj, i straight up asked her if we were bf/gf coz my last relationship was not clear so i had to get **** straightened out first hand... so being exclusive/ not exclusive is out of the question...

i'll keep the second point in mind though... what else you guys got?
 

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Originally posted by Zhen
freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
wow

Your getting a b-itch slap for talking to a mod like that, cause thats just stupid.

idiot :rolleyes:
 

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i think mr. debonaire is a *****

apparently i'm the first guy she's kissed and although she's 20, she's never thought of kissing a guy until it's a serious relationship.

it's gonna be fun taking her out of that shell:)
 

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When a girl says "we're moving to fast" I hear "I really like you but I don't want you to think I'm an easy slut"

Now personally I would use one of David DeAngelo's techniques, which is Two steps forward, one step back and build the anicipation.

This has worked good for me in the past.

Two steps forward and one step back means advancing then pulling back a bit.

Next time your sitting on the couch try this. Hold her hand for a bit then let go, lean back and keep talking.

Then after a few minutes kiss her for a bit, pull back and keep talking.

Keep advancing this way and let me know how it works.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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