"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok, ok...I was paralyzed...Knock down some sense into me

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Here's my story so far...
There's a chick who I'm very attracted to...She's my classmate and I'm almost sure she likes me too...For the last two months she has been giving me signs of interest, despite she's kinda shy.

Yea...Sounds simple in my mind...Just ask her out and the rest will be story...But there's something that paralyzes me when I'm about to do it...

Today I felt the perfect moment to ask her...There were only me and her left on the classroom and I went to talk with her...But when I would invite her, the words wouldn't leave...Everytime I thought "Go now!", I froze up and we ended with a small boring chat.

Nothing is screwed yet, but I'm feeling MUCH bad I couldn't do it...Please guys, knock down some sense into me saying the hardest you can...Tips to control myself are welcome too...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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it'll be easier if you take less drastic steps. Rather than asking her to be your gf straight up you could ask to do soemthing together. If you feel wierd doing it in person you can always call her or even IM her these days. While some people may call you a wimp or whatever a good conversation on the phone is still infinitiely better than a bad face to face one. Also talking to her face to face will get easier once you've talked to her more via some other method.

Generally the main point i have for you is to take in smaller steps. We've all been where you are.
 
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Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
 
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thanks guys, just did it today...

asked her in the IM if she was going to do anything tomorrow...unfortunately, she already had things to do...but at least I did it...feeling much better now :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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lol gj.
heres the thing though, she might have cancelled her things if she already liked you and you actually asked her out :p

I think DJs should rename the concept of "asking her out" to "telling her out"... haha just a suggestion.
 
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it looks like she had a birthday party of a friend of her...not the kind of thing she would cancel...haha

anyway I have been flirting with her before and so does she, but this was the first "obvious move"...BTW, what can I do now to go further with her without looking desesperate?
 
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add light Kino and teasing to your arsenal
 
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ask again, the easiest sort of events to ask her to are the ones she would go to anyways. For example, is your homecoming coming up? ask her to the homecoming game? the homecoming dance? the homecoming night rally?
Do you guys have school plays?

Basically if they're school based than theres a pretty good chance she was planning on going anyways. This way you won't get rejected as she probably already cleared her schedule for this anyways(unless she acutally doesnt want to go with you, which we hope isnt the case).

good luck, and congrats on your prgress
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
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Hahaha I love that!
 
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