“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok, ok...I was paralyzed...Knock down some sense into me

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Here's my story so far...
There's a chick who I'm very attracted to...She's my classmate and I'm almost sure she likes me too...For the last two months she has been giving me signs of interest, despite she's kinda shy.

Yea...Sounds simple in my mind...Just ask her out and the rest will be story...But there's something that paralyzes me when I'm about to do it...

Today I felt the perfect moment to ask her...There were only me and her left on the classroom and I went to talk with her...But when I would invite her, the words wouldn't leave...Everytime I thought "Go now!", I froze up and we ended with a small boring chat.

Nothing is screwed yet, but I'm feeling MUCH bad I couldn't do it...Please guys, knock down some sense into me saying the hardest you can...Tips to control myself are welcome too...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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it'll be easier if you take less drastic steps. Rather than asking her to be your gf straight up you could ask to do soemthing together. If you feel wierd doing it in person you can always call her or even IM her these days. While some people may call you a wimp or whatever a good conversation on the phone is still infinitiely better than a bad face to face one. Also talking to her face to face will get easier once you've talked to her more via some other method.

Generally the main point i have for you is to take in smaller steps. We've all been where you are.
 
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Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
 
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thanks guys, just did it today...

asked her in the IM if she was going to do anything tomorrow...unfortunately, she already had things to do...but at least I did it...feeling much better now :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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lol gj.
heres the thing though, she might have cancelled her things if she already liked you and you actually asked her out :p

I think DJs should rename the concept of "asking her out" to "telling her out"... haha just a suggestion.
 
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it looks like she had a birthday party of a friend of her...not the kind of thing she would cancel...haha

anyway I have been flirting with her before and so does she, but this was the first "obvious move"...BTW, what can I do now to go further with her without looking desesperate?
 
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add light Kino and teasing to your arsenal
 
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ask again, the easiest sort of events to ask her to are the ones she would go to anyways. For example, is your homecoming coming up? ask her to the homecoming game? the homecoming dance? the homecoming night rally?
Do you guys have school plays?

Basically if they're school based than theres a pretty good chance she was planning on going anyways. This way you won't get rejected as she probably already cleared her schedule for this anyways(unless she acutally doesnt want to go with you, which we hope isnt the case).

good luck, and congrats on your prgress
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
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Hahaha I love that!
 
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