"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok, ok...I was paralyzed...Knock down some sense into me

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farlenrejorano

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Here's my story so far...
There's a chick who I'm very attracted to...She's my classmate and I'm almost sure she likes me too...For the last two months she has been giving me signs of interest, despite she's kinda shy.

Yea...Sounds simple in my mind...Just ask her out and the rest will be story...But there's something that paralyzes me when I'm about to do it...

Today I felt the perfect moment to ask her...There were only me and her left on the classroom and I went to talk with her...But when I would invite her, the words wouldn't leave...Everytime I thought "Go now!", I froze up and we ended with a small boring chat.

Nothing is screwed yet, but I'm feeling MUCH bad I couldn't do it...Please guys, knock down some sense into me saying the hardest you can...Tips to control myself are welcome too...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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it'll be easier if you take less drastic steps. Rather than asking her to be your gf straight up you could ask to do soemthing together. If you feel wierd doing it in person you can always call her or even IM her these days. While some people may call you a wimp or whatever a good conversation on the phone is still infinitiely better than a bad face to face one. Also talking to her face to face will get easier once you've talked to her more via some other method.

Generally the main point i have for you is to take in smaller steps. We've all been where you are.
 
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Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
 
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farlenrejorano

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thanks guys, just did it today...

asked her in the IM if she was going to do anything tomorrow...unfortunately, she already had things to do...but at least I did it...feeling much better now :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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lol gj.
heres the thing though, she might have cancelled her things if she already liked you and you actually asked her out :p

I think DJs should rename the concept of "asking her out" to "telling her out"... haha just a suggestion.
 
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farlenrejorano

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it looks like she had a birthday party of a friend of her...not the kind of thing she would cancel...haha

anyway I have been flirting with her before and so does she, but this was the first "obvious move"...BTW, what can I do now to go further with her without looking desesperate?
 
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add light Kino and teasing to your arsenal
 
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ask again, the easiest sort of events to ask her to are the ones she would go to anyways. For example, is your homecoming coming up? ask her to the homecoming game? the homecoming dance? the homecoming night rally?
Do you guys have school plays?

Basically if they're school based than theres a pretty good chance she was planning on going anyways. This way you won't get rejected as she probably already cleared her schedule for this anyways(unless she acutally doesnt want to go with you, which we hope isnt the case).

good luck, and congrats on your prgress
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
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Hahaha I love that!
 
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