Ok, ok...I was paralyzed...Knock down some sense into me

[farlenrejorano]

Here's my story so far...
There's a chick who I'm very attracted to...She's my classmate and I'm almost sure she likes me too...For the last two months she has been giving me signs of interest, despite she's kinda shy.

Yea...Sounds simple in my mind...Just ask her out and the rest will be story...But there's something that paralyzes me when I'm about to do it...

Today I felt the perfect moment to ask her...There were only me and her left on the classroom and I went to talk with her...But when I would invite her, the words wouldn't leave...Everytime I thought "Go now!", I froze up and we ended with a small boring chat.

Nothing is screwed yet, but I'm feeling MUCH bad I couldn't do it...Please guys, knock down some sense into me saying the hardest you can...Tips to control myself are welcome too...

 

[redspicyflag]

hey we were all at that point

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=42638

 

[venser]

it'll be easier if you take less drastic steps. Rather than asking her to be your gf straight up you could ask to do soemthing together. If you feel wierd doing it in person you can always call her or even IM her these days. While some people may call you a wimp or whatever a good conversation on the phone is still infinitiely better than a bad face to face one. Also talking to her face to face will get easier once you've talked to her more via some other method.

Generally the main point i have for you is to take in smaller steps. We've all been where you are.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.

 

[farlenrejorano]

thanks guys, just did it today...

asked her in the IM if she was going to do anything tomorrow...unfortunately, she already had things to do...but at least I did it...feeling much better now

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

lol gj.
heres the thing though, she might have cancelled her things if she already liked you and you actually asked her out

I think DJs should rename the concept of "asking her out" to "telling her out"... haha just a suggestion.

 

[farlenrejorano]

it looks like she had a birthday party of a friend of her...not the kind of thing she would cancel...haha

anyway I have been flirting with her before and so does she, but this was the first "obvious move"...BTW, what can I do now to go further with her without looking desesperate?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

add light Kino and teasing to your arsenal

 

[farlenrejorano]

yea I'm already doing that...

 

[venser]

ask again, the easiest sort of events to ask her to are the ones she would go to anyways. For example, is your homecoming coming up? ask her to the homecoming game? the homecoming dance? the homecoming night rally?
Do you guys have school plays?

Basically if they're school based than theres a pretty good chance she was planning on going anyways. This way you won't get rejected as she probably already cleared her schedule for this anyways(unless she acutally doesnt want to go with you, which we hope isnt the case).

good luck, and congrats on your prgress

 

[sandman6991]

Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.

Hahaha I love that!