"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, ok...I was paralyzed...Knock down some sense into me

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Here's my story so far...
There's a chick who I'm very attracted to...She's my classmate and I'm almost sure she likes me too...For the last two months she has been giving me signs of interest, despite she's kinda shy.

Yea...Sounds simple in my mind...Just ask her out and the rest will be story...But there's something that paralyzes me when I'm about to do it...

Today I felt the perfect moment to ask her...There were only me and her left on the classroom and I went to talk with her...But when I would invite her, the words wouldn't leave...Everytime I thought "Go now!", I froze up and we ended with a small boring chat.

Nothing is screwed yet, but I'm feeling MUCH bad I couldn't do it...Please guys, knock down some sense into me saying the hardest you can...Tips to control myself are welcome too...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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it'll be easier if you take less drastic steps. Rather than asking her to be your gf straight up you could ask to do soemthing together. If you feel wierd doing it in person you can always call her or even IM her these days. While some people may call you a wimp or whatever a good conversation on the phone is still infinitiely better than a bad face to face one. Also talking to her face to face will get easier once you've talked to her more via some other method.

Generally the main point i have for you is to take in smaller steps. We've all been where you are.
 
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Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
 
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thanks guys, just did it today...

asked her in the IM if she was going to do anything tomorrow...unfortunately, she already had things to do...but at least I did it...feeling much better now :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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lol gj.
heres the thing though, she might have cancelled her things if she already liked you and you actually asked her out :p

I think DJs should rename the concept of "asking her out" to "telling her out"... haha just a suggestion.
 
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it looks like she had a birthday party of a friend of her...not the kind of thing she would cancel...haha

anyway I have been flirting with her before and so does she, but this was the first "obvious move"...BTW, what can I do now to go further with her without looking desesperate?
 
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add light Kino and teasing to your arsenal
 
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ask again, the easiest sort of events to ask her to are the ones she would go to anyways. For example, is your homecoming coming up? ask her to the homecoming game? the homecoming dance? the homecoming night rally?
Do you guys have school plays?

Basically if they're school based than theres a pretty good chance she was planning on going anyways. This way you won't get rejected as she probably already cleared her schedule for this anyways(unless she acutally doesnt want to go with you, which we hope isnt the case).

good luck, and congrats on your prgress
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Here are your simplified steps:

Step 1 - Say hey whats up
Step 2 - Ask her out

Don't mess up, it's so easy it'd be really loserish :p

You can think of a creative way to ask her out if you want... like:
"hey I'm going skydiving on firday night and I've decided to let you join me, sound ok?"
her: "ummm I'm afraid of heights"
"ok we can go see a movie then, I'll pick you up at around 8:30, see ya."
her: okay sounds good, bye!

haha I laughed at what I just typed.
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Hahaha I love that!
 
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