"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NYC Meeting! NJ, NY, PA, CT, NYC June 3rd, 2006 Get in here!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lexdiamond20
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LOL Im not sure if there are any girls as open as white girls. They just make the world a better place.gongxia649 said:maybe because they were asian. they are not as open as white girls..
BlackAccord
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Ideas for future outings - hit the Lavalife parties. there was actually one going on tonite, but I couldnt quite make it, but these parties are great. Lots of girls and great for practicing. I'll keep u posted abut these parties, but just go to www.lavalife.com and there's lists of when the next parties are. the Toshi parties (www.toshiparty.com). just click on the link and check out the website. these are also great. they're held in the Puck building with open bar (50 bucks entry or so). Lincoln center Swing Dance - yup tons of women love to swing (i know - i did ballroom dancing for 5 yrs and met a lot of women that way - u need no pretense at all. just ask someone to dance and the women love it). the Lincoln center swing starts in a week or 2. There's a whole lot of other places too in NYC...all u need is to get together a group. Cultural societies like Asia Society, South Asian Networking Association all have happy hours ALL the time...great place to meet asian women (continuing the thread from above). One thing i've been meaning to go to is to take a bartending class. there are always women in these classes. If you guys want, I can send y'all invites from a business networking association that I belong to called Ryze (www.ryze.com). this association has TONS of social events listed all the time. I speak from experience - good place to meet and pick up women. Just email me and I can set u up w/ the invites. Any more ideas, please post...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Drum&Bass
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count me in !
ssj245 , next week I'm gonna be going out with the women I met on saturday, and I know all the other guys are gonna be busy to, so you gotta wait awhile kid !
BlackAccord
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BlackAccord
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
BlackAccord
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Woh there killer. I really don't think race has much to do with whether a girl is "cold" or not.gongxia649 said:maybe because they were asian. they are not as open as white girls..
Sure, I'd be game.NiR said:i just read this thread. im new but anyone interested to do another hangout like this in nyc?
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I can come through with some solid plans but if anyone knows any events that would be the key.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.