"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NYC is the best place for a DJ
- Thread starter captain55
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
btownbuck2012
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Agreed. I used to live there and now LA is a-lot more difficult logistically. Everything in NYC is right there. I actually may move back there one day, lol.
devilkingx2
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
marmel75
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Best city to earn 80K and be broke in and forced to live with 2 roommates too.
logicallefty
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I personally know a guy in NYC who will agree with this. He moved from Central Illinois (not Chicago) to NYC. He makes ~100k in NYC in I.T. and said he had no idea he could ever make ~100k and be so poor. He lives in a nice place but shares it with 2-3 other guys and says its more like college than living as an individual adult. In Central Illinois 100k will put you in the rich folk neighborhood, maybe even a 'gated community' if that's your thing. NYC is somewhere I would like to visit to see what its all about.
claudolfgeorgini
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Nah I'm pretty much broke and I get laid. I get most of my women in Brooklyn which is where I live. You will obviously have an easier time if you're rich though. Every chick here is looking for a come up.
claudolfgeorgini
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It depends where you live in NYC. I make way less than 100k and have no problems. The further you are from Manhattan the cheaper it gets.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
devilkingx2
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the trick is not trying to live in some fancy neighborhood like chelsea with $3000 a month apartments
BeTheChange
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Haha. This is true. If you have a British accent, NY is almost too easy.