penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh rollo, that really is scary.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rollo Tomassi said:You know what scares me the most about this? Not that the father thinks he's doing his son a favor. Not that what he's done is essentially turn his son into a completely emasculated gender reversal. Not that he and his father think the whole arrangement is what men "should" do if they're real men. None of that.
What scares me most is the girl who comes along, has the whole twisted thing explained to her and still says "aww, that's so sweet" instead of running away in terror. The girl even more twisted than these two, THAT scares me.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
yes, where is dear old mom in all this?joekerr31 said:id like to know where the mother is in all this.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The father knows this. He is setting up his boy to fail, so he can keep tat'n dat azz :crackup:Last Man Standing said:What this idiot is not considering is that there will be a small to no pickings for him to marry a woman with the same determination as his - to keep her virginity!! The pretty, slim ones won't be available in their virgin state, with a surety!
Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:ketostix said:...no one holds a man in any esteem unless he's fvcking girls. Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kind of women he gets.
this site is needed to promote healthy self growth for starters.reset said:Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:
Is that all that there is to you?ketostix said:... Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kinmd of women he gets.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that all that there is to you?![]()
This is senseLESS, keto.ketostix said:Just go out in public with say a 21 year old girl that's extremely attractive and see if people don't think you're the "man". This is just common sense.
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that was painful to read. Not everything is black and white, on or off.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.