penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh rollo, that really is scary.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rollo Tomassi said:You know what scares me the most about this? Not that the father thinks he's doing his son a favor. Not that what he's done is essentially turn his son into a completely emasculated gender reversal. Not that he and his father think the whole arrangement is what men "should" do if they're real men. None of that.
What scares me most is the girl who comes along, has the whole twisted thing explained to her and still says "aww, that's so sweet" instead of running away in terror. The girl even more twisted than these two, THAT scares me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yes, where is dear old mom in all this?joekerr31 said:id like to know where the mother is in all this.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The father knows this. He is setting up his boy to fail, so he can keep tat'n dat azz :crackup:Last Man Standing said:What this idiot is not considering is that there will be a small to no pickings for him to marry a woman with the same determination as his - to keep her virginity!! The pretty, slim ones won't be available in their virgin state, with a surety!
Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:ketostix said:...no one holds a man in any esteem unless he's fvcking girls. Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kind of women he gets.
this site is needed to promote healthy self growth for starters.reset said:Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:
Is that all that there is to you?ketostix said:... Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kinmd of women he gets.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that all that there is to you?![]()
This is senseLESS, keto.ketostix said:Just go out in public with say a 21 year old girl that's extremely attractive and see if people don't think you're the "man". This is just common sense.
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that was painful to read. Not everything is black and white, on or off.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.