penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh rollo, that really is scary.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rollo Tomassi said:You know what scares me the most about this? Not that the father thinks he's doing his son a favor. Not that what he's done is essentially turn his son into a completely emasculated gender reversal. Not that he and his father think the whole arrangement is what men "should" do if they're real men. None of that.
What scares me most is the girl who comes along, has the whole twisted thing explained to her and still says "aww, that's so sweet" instead of running away in terror. The girl even more twisted than these two, THAT scares me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
yes, where is dear old mom in all this?joekerr31 said:id like to know where the mother is in all this.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The father knows this. He is setting up his boy to fail, so he can keep tat'n dat azz :crackup:Last Man Standing said:What this idiot is not considering is that there will be a small to no pickings for him to marry a woman with the same determination as his - to keep her virginity!! The pretty, slim ones won't be available in their virgin state, with a surety!
Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:ketostix said:...no one holds a man in any esteem unless he's fvcking girls. Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kind of women he gets.
this site is needed to promote healthy self growth for starters.reset said:Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:
Is that all that there is to you?ketostix said:... Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kinmd of women he gets.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that all that there is to you?![]()
This is senseLESS, keto.ketostix said:Just go out in public with say a 21 year old girl that's extremely attractive and see if people don't think you're the "man". This is just common sense.
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that was painful to read. Not everything is black and white, on or off.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.