penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh rollo, that really is scary.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Rollo Tomassi said:You know what scares me the most about this? Not that the father thinks he's doing his son a favor. Not that what he's done is essentially turn his son into a completely emasculated gender reversal. Not that he and his father think the whole arrangement is what men "should" do if they're real men. None of that.
What scares me most is the girl who comes along, has the whole twisted thing explained to her and still says "aww, that's so sweet" instead of running away in terror. The girl even more twisted than these two, THAT scares me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
yes, where is dear old mom in all this?joekerr31 said:id like to know where the mother is in all this.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The father knows this. He is setting up his boy to fail, so he can keep tat'n dat azz :crackup:Last Man Standing said:What this idiot is not considering is that there will be a small to no pickings for him to marry a woman with the same determination as his - to keep her virginity!! The pretty, slim ones won't be available in their virgin state, with a surety!
Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:ketostix said:...no one holds a man in any esteem unless he's fvcking girls. Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kind of women he gets.
this site is needed to promote healthy self growth for starters.reset said:Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:
Is that all that there is to you?ketostix said:... Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kinmd of women he gets.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that all that there is to you?![]()
This is senseLESS, keto.ketostix said:Just go out in public with say a 21 year old girl that's extremely attractive and see if people don't think you're the "man". This is just common sense.
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that was painful to read. Not everything is black and white, on or off.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.