penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh rollo, that really is scary.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rollo Tomassi said:You know what scares me the most about this? Not that the father thinks he's doing his son a favor. Not that what he's done is essentially turn his son into a completely emasculated gender reversal. Not that he and his father think the whole arrangement is what men "should" do if they're real men. None of that.
What scares me most is the girl who comes along, has the whole twisted thing explained to her and still says "aww, that's so sweet" instead of running away in terror. The girl even more twisted than these two, THAT scares me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
yes, where is dear old mom in all this?joekerr31 said:id like to know where the mother is in all this.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The father knows this. He is setting up his boy to fail, so he can keep tat'n dat azz :crackup:Last Man Standing said:What this idiot is not considering is that there will be a small to no pickings for him to marry a woman with the same determination as his - to keep her virginity!! The pretty, slim ones won't be available in their virgin state, with a surety!
Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:ketostix said:...no one holds a man in any esteem unless he's fvcking girls. Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kind of women he gets.
this site is needed to promote healthy self growth for starters.reset said:Why do we even need this site? Let's all give up. :rock:
Is that all that there is to you?ketostix said:... Basically a man's worth is limited to how much money and power he has and what kinmd of women he gets.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that all that there is to you?![]()
This is senseLESS, keto.ketostix said:Just go out in public with say a 21 year old girl that's extremely attractive and see if people don't think you're the "man". This is just common sense.
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that was painful to read. Not everything is black and white, on or off.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.