OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
Thanks!
Thanks!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
No I didnt bang her. I just was curiouse because she seemed into me and my instincts were telling me to text her but I also know my instincts are not very good haha! So when should I set up the next date or whatever?
It depends on your schedule. Have you gone over what girls find unattractive?
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
I definantly find her attractive. Our first date we went hiking non stop talking between both of us although I tried to keep her talking more about herself. Then she invited me to dinner with one of her friends so I tagged along. Her and her friend had alot of future plans in which she wanted me to come along with as almost a double date. She is very outgoing and were into alot of the same stuff.
Igetit!
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I say wait a day or two.OamImrsNemo said:So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
If you continue to contact her each and everyday,she may get the impression that you didn't have a life before her.
You want her to know that she's A PART of your life,not the focus of it.
Let her be. You want to be what she goes to in order to escape the normalcy,the boredom,the repetiveness of her own life.
If you call her too much,text her too much,contact her too much,then you'll become part of the boredom and repetiveness of her life.
Just back off a bit,live your own life,then call her after a day or two.