OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
Thanks!
Thanks!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
No I didnt bang her. I just was curiouse because she seemed into me and my instincts were telling me to text her but I also know my instincts are not very good haha! So when should I set up the next date or whatever?
It depends on your schedule. Have you gone over what girls find unattractive?
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
I definantly find her attractive. Our first date we went hiking non stop talking between both of us although I tried to keep her talking more about herself. Then she invited me to dinner with one of her friends so I tagged along. Her and her friend had alot of future plans in which she wanted me to come along with as almost a double date. She is very outgoing and were into alot of the same stuff.
Igetit!
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I say wait a day or two.OamImrsNemo said:So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
If you continue to contact her each and everyday,she may get the impression that you didn't have a life before her.
You want her to know that she's A PART of your life,not the focus of it.
Let her be. You want to be what she goes to in order to escape the normalcy,the boredom,the repetiveness of her own life.
If you call her too much,text her too much,contact her too much,then you'll become part of the boredom and repetiveness of her life.
Just back off a bit,live your own life,then call her after a day or two.