OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
Thanks!
Thanks!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
No I didnt bang her. I just was curiouse because she seemed into me and my instincts were telling me to text her but I also know my instincts are not very good haha! So when should I set up the next date or whatever?
It depends on your schedule. Have you gone over what girls find unattractive?
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
I definantly find her attractive. Our first date we went hiking non stop talking between both of us although I tried to keep her talking more about herself. Then she invited me to dinner with one of her friends so I tagged along. Her and her friend had alot of future plans in which she wanted me to come along with as almost a double date. She is very outgoing and were into alot of the same stuff.
Igetit!
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I say wait a day or two.OamImrsNemo said:So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
If you continue to contact her each and everyday,she may get the impression that you didn't have a life before her.
You want her to know that she's A PART of your life,not the focus of it.
Let her be. You want to be what she goes to in order to escape the normalcy,the boredom,the repetiveness of her own life.
If you call her too much,text her too much,contact her too much,then you'll become part of the boredom and repetiveness of her life.
Just back off a bit,live your own life,then call her after a day or two.