OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
Thanks!
Thanks!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
No I didnt bang her. I just was curiouse because she seemed into me and my instincts were telling me to text her but I also know my instincts are not very good haha! So when should I set up the next date or whatever?
It depends on your schedule. Have you gone over what girls find unattractive?
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
I definantly find her attractive. Our first date we went hiking non stop talking between both of us although I tried to keep her talking more about herself. Then she invited me to dinner with one of her friends so I tagged along. Her and her friend had alot of future plans in which she wanted me to come along with as almost a double date. She is very outgoing and were into alot of the same stuff.
Igetit!
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I say wait a day or two.OamImrsNemo said:So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
If you continue to contact her each and everyday,she may get the impression that you didn't have a life before her.
You want her to know that she's A PART of your life,not the focus of it.
Let her be. You want to be what she goes to in order to escape the normalcy,the boredom,the repetiveness of her own life.
If you call her too much,text her too much,contact her too much,then you'll become part of the boredom and repetiveness of her life.
Just back off a bit,live your own life,then call her after a day or two.