OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
Thanks!
Thanks!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
No I didnt bang her. I just was curiouse because she seemed into me and my instincts were telling me to text her but I also know my instincts are not very good haha! So when should I set up the next date or whatever?
It depends on your schedule. Have you gone over what girls find unattractive?
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
1. Neediness
2. Insecurity
Both of these are reflected in how often you try to contact her. If she is really attractive and has guys hitting on her all day, then you need to be VERY chill.
Tell me more about her.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
I definantly find her attractive. Our first date we went hiking non stop talking between both of us although I tried to keep her talking more about herself. Then she invited me to dinner with one of her friends so I tagged along. Her and her friend had alot of future plans in which she wanted me to come along with as almost a double date. She is very outgoing and were into alot of the same stuff.
Igetit!
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I say wait a day or two.OamImrsNemo said:So met this chick sat. Took her on a date on sun. Today is monday should I text her asking her about her day tonight? or wait a day or two?
If you continue to contact her each and everyday,she may get the impression that you didn't have a life before her.
You want her to know that she's A PART of your life,not the focus of it.
Let her be. You want to be what she goes to in order to escape the normalcy,the boredom,the repetiveness of her own life.
If you call her too much,text her too much,contact her too much,then you'll become part of the boredom and repetiveness of her life.
Just back off a bit,live your own life,then call her after a day or two.