"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not your type

Biggie

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So i have this girl who's a really good friend of mine. She's pretty much one of the guys, and it's great because she gives very good insight into the minds of women. Anyway, last night her and i and a couple of friends were hanging out drinking, and she was talking about how with girls, it's all about validation. She was saying girls will always feel like they're not good enough, despite how they act. Anyway, she was saying that by telling a girl that she's not your type, it makes her want to spend the rest of the night trying to prove that she could be your type. Just wanted to hear some feedback on this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Conquer

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I think its true to a point. I personally would never tell a women that i was interested in that she was not my type.
 

Sandow

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Haha this is classic line. I actually used to use this line a lot. And yes, in theory, by telling a girl that she's not ur type, you are disqualifying her. Depending on what kind of girl she is, she will either think your a jerk and drop you, or she'll try harder to prove herself.

In my opinion, this line is a little insulting, so make sure to say it a funny way. That way it comes off C&F. I don't really use this line anymore, but I use the IDEA behind it a lot. You can accomplish the same meaning by doing things like not returning her calls, talking more to her friends when everyones out, or telling her that she makes a great friend. If you know anything about attraction, doing this with some flirtation works wonders.
 

COD

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ya its a disqualifyer neg..............interesting side note when U do make a move.........they all say "HEY I THOUGHT I WASN'T YOUR TYPE"

it doesnt always make a girl chase you more..........it does put the attraction wheels in motion though. Push/pull psychology at its best.

From a guys perspective...........when a chic says that to us..........we all want to know instantly "whats your type". This is a great opportunity to bust on them with "YA U SEEM LIKE A MAGNET FOR PATHETIC LOSERS........DRAMA QUEEN, not sure U could handle a nice guy for a change" hows your type working out for ya.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cinamon

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If she has self esteem issues, there is no way she is going to try to prove you wrong, but if she is confident she will try to prove you wrong.
 
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