"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ban me if I don't approach this girl tomorrow.


I'm going to go up to her and ask where she got that bandana she was wearing yesteryday. I'll be like, Were you the bandana girl? I thought it was intertesting... where did you get it... etc.


If I fail to do this tomorrow. Mods ban me. My life will be over.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You sound like me, approaching a girl is the easiest part, having her like you/ her having instant attraction, building rapport, etc, is rolling gods dice. I feel like this, I can't get anywhere either, I overthink, my confidence always changes, always for the worst.

Oh and your line isn't gonna get you anything but a weird look and a "what????". Have fun.
 
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They should ban me too. There's this girl named Marissa that I just can't seem to approach. Man, I got balls, but they might as well not be there. I seriously want to just stop being nervous, stop having doubts about myself, and approach women. 2 years on this site, and I'm still nervous? WTF man, I think my head is messed up or something.
 
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GaryUranga said:
GET IN PERSPECTIVE, its just a person with boobs, whats so scary about that?! why having boobs would mean treating her any differently?
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...not only boobs... what about between the legs?Thats what you scared of :p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She still craps in the toilet. She still belches after fizzy drink. She still scratches her punani when no one is around. She is repulsive.

Now go get her.
 
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I honestly didn't see her today. Tomorrow I drive to school so I can leave when I want to, so I'll find her tomorrow.


But I'm a man of my word, you're welcome to ban me.
 
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It doesn't matter how long you've been into "DJ'in", almost everyone (even the greatest PUA's) get nervous.. Its set in our brain. But what you gotta learn to do is let go, and to stop caring, once you do that you're free. Free from fear of rejections, free from nervousness.. Try it, it will "Free your mind" so to speak.
 
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Well heck, I know that if I could just stop worrying about how to open to the girl , stop being insecure about my voice(Which people say is 'slow', and often times mock me for. Naturally I'm afraid that she might just diss me or not be interested in me because my voice sounds slow. Or because my voice is slow, she might think I'm retarded or something), and stop caring about rejection, I could do it. Let's face it, I'm beyond help, because even after I've read over countless advice on those things, I still can't stop caring, and I still have a hard time approaching girls.
 
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This is stupid
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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