"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No Masturbating - Am I normal?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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PUT IT LIKE THIS.... masterbating is not right so dont think you should masterbate to be like every single virgin on this site.
theunflushables
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i once met a tom cruise look-a-like/karate expert/lockpicker/barbed wire climber/leather jacket-wearing really, really cool 16-year old dude who is a NATURAL chick magnet who doesn't watch porn, doesn't jerk off, and has never heard of lube.
A question: Do you blow in your sleep sometimes?
Serious question, all of us guys would if we don't wank for long enough.
These days in my early 20's I need to do it often because I'm at my sexual peek as a male. So i need to do it more often. There are many biological things that happen in your brain chemistry and so on that masturbation can help you with.
If i didnt masturbate I would just always up uptight, of couse working out and other stress relief is important too, but sexual stress that guys develop needs to be aided because you cant expect a girl to be around all the time, even if you are in a great relationship and your girl is a nympho... you still may want to masturbate for certain health reasons and because you enjoy it.
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SinJester said:
Yea I *** in my sleep sometimes, maybe once a week. I think about sex about twice a week now and I don't grab my balls.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Daddy The Pimp
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You cant even force yourself not to masturbate after a few minutes in there lol
antidonjuan
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theunflushables said:
honestly masturbation is self deprecating and self destructive and if you dont know it also increases approach anxiety(aa) so that only leaves more worse than better(so youare making yourself have a harder time meeting people). This dude is doing a great job, kid dont jackoff ever, youll end up worse than better.
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another question: i used to watch porn a lot last year and i dun watch it anymore this year, is that normal too? I'd admit i love to read sex fantasies but not porn.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Antidonjuan one a week in your sleep sounds messy. Whats the differance between that and getting off once a week? At least you get pleasure out of one of them. No one is serioulsy suggesting you do it every day. But if you can't be sexual with yourself how are you going to ever be sexual with girls?
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sinjester lol.poor guy i got proof check this out.http://www.yangtown.com/ebooks/revive-your-sex-drive-free-taoist-sexual-energy-techniques-ebook/SinJester said:
look it up and read it you numbskull. Also sex is good for everyone, its what humans live for, physical connection/a feeling of importance(psychology stuff). Porn makes you evaluate a woman based on looks, and after the act you feel guilt and shame. When you see a girl you like for her looks, you tie it to the guilt and shame you had jacking off. What don-juans knows that jacking-off is lazy,self destructive, and only limits your socialness and relationships.
Here's some links you might want to check out:
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn3942-masturbating-may-protect-against-prostate-cancer.html
There's a few different views here:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Is_masturbation_bad_for_you
Of course it is bad if you do it too much, but so is everything. Anything saying it is bad is purely spiritual with no scientific proof to back it up. Besides would going in your pants drain the same amount of 'life force' as masterbating?
I respect your views but I am just arguing my own. I'm not going to hold a grudge because I've likes what I've seen in some other of your posts.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.