"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No homo but... would you say Im attractive?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bigneil

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I didn't look at the photos.

But if a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not he's good looking, chance are he is not.
 

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bigneil said:
I didn't look at the photos.

But if a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not he's good looking, chance are he is not.
Nah, its just that i either get "youre reallyy hot" or they seem unattracted...
 

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Over the next couple of years your look will change quite a bit as you fill out.

I think you will do just fine.

Great attitude while being poked at by the resident d!ckheads. Your personality will take you further than your looks.
 

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As a girl I'd have to say your overall look is "okay"

I mean, you look significantly younger than me so I don't exactly think I'm the best judge. When I was in high school I would have thought you were "cute" in a "dorky" sort of way.
No offence.

It's the hair, and you kind of need to fill out some more. Broader shoulders, etc. The advice given in here is pretty good.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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bigneil said:
I didn't look at the photos.

But if a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not he's good looking, chance are he is not.
Don't pay bigneil any mind. He gets sensitive when he hasn't seen his therapist in a while
 

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gpshields3 said:
Don't pay bigneil any mind. He gets sensitive when he hasn't seen his therapist in a while
Take it from one star who takes Prozac.

But hang in there one star. Some day. Some day someone will agree with one of your posts.
 

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bigneil said:
I didn't look at the photos.

But if a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not he's good looking, chance are he is not.
Is this like when a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not his girlfriend is cute and he has them rate her?
 

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i guess Pic 1 lets you appear pretty attractive. is this a beard? keep it. i wouldnt also change too much about your body, you are not the type for lots of muscles. toning is fine tho, your upper body could need some. do you play guitar? if not try to learn it. and get a few accessoires. necklace or something. overall there is potential for looking like a cool dude.

pic 2+3 you dont look attractive because you look like a boy. well the girls in your age range might not mind as much, but often they will go for someone who looks more mature. the pic with your sisters (?) also shows a bad dynamic. sister or not you dont want to be seen on a pic with a hot girl and look like her puppy dog. it should be her head on your shoulder. much different. and since she is so damn cute ... let her help you. there should be a bunch of hot other girls that she knows and thus you have access to. for training and more.
 

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AlexDP said:
Is this like when a man needs to ask a bunch of anonymous men whether or not his girlfriend is cute and he has them rate her?

OHHHHH burn!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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its good to get opinions from other guys man, dont stress it. we're here to help each other out, or so I would assume.

your skin and facial structure is good.
you need to put on some muscle and fix your hair, it doesnt fit you.

check out like bodybuilding.com

and find a more blunt hairdresser.
 
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