lizardking82
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How do you see it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No fights/jealousy = no passion? Yes or no?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Childish
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I had one of those sex when I wanted it and a helpful lady.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The Duke
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My exwife and I never had any jealousy or fights in all the years we were together. There was plenty of passion and we both had a ton of respect for each other. The key to it all is having two level headed people that can sit down and discuss an issue and try to understand where the other is coming from. If you can do this, you can keep arguments from turning into fights. Neither of us were "jealous" personalities and our effective communication kept the fights from happening. I've had this with one other girl, its very rare to find.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Depends on the situation. It's alright for her to get a little bit worried/insecure if she sees you talking to other chicks CONSTANTLY. I see nothing wrong with that because it just means that she doesn't want to lose you; she cares about you. But if she's using at as a power play to try and guilt-trip you or make you seem like a horrible person over the slightest glance of a woman or something, then it's bad. That could just mean that she is now self-destructing the relationship because she doesn't want to be in it anymore yet also doesn't want to be the one to take the blame for it. Either that or she is projecting because she has started seeing some other guy behind your back so she makes herself feel better about it by saying that you are too. That's all subconscious though.
It's all dependent on the situation, as you can see.
It's all dependent on the situation, as you can see.
Speaking as a woman who is extremely intelligent and right about absolutely everything. I can't imagine a life without a good fight now and then. It helps with boundaries I find.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
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WOAH. " right about absolutely everything".... That scares me that you actually believe that
I know, its meant to.
But it is true. I try to restrain myself but if you saw a baby stumbling towards a busy road wouldn't you do something? That is how I feel. I also say to people who do not heed my advice, "I told you that would happen" - which is even more annoying.
Interesting introduction, unusual name you have there. Were you named after your father?
I am sure that while you are obviously not sapient you must be glad you were not named nincompoop instead.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Psst!!! She's 100% DEAD WRONG.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
the only reason that no fights and jealously would mean no passion would be if your woman was so nuts that she can't care about someone without acting like a crazy person
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
JohnChops
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This. I don't remember the last time I actually fought with a girl. Bring her into your reality, which should not consist of conflict.