lizardking82
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How do you see it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No fights/jealousy = no passion? Yes or no?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Childish
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I had one of those sex when I wanted it and a helpful lady.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Duke
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My exwife and I never had any jealousy or fights in all the years we were together. There was plenty of passion and we both had a ton of respect for each other. The key to it all is having two level headed people that can sit down and discuss an issue and try to understand where the other is coming from. If you can do this, you can keep arguments from turning into fights. Neither of us were "jealous" personalities and our effective communication kept the fights from happening. I've had this with one other girl, its very rare to find.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Depends on the situation. It's alright for her to get a little bit worried/insecure if she sees you talking to other chicks CONSTANTLY. I see nothing wrong with that because it just means that she doesn't want to lose you; she cares about you. But if she's using at as a power play to try and guilt-trip you or make you seem like a horrible person over the slightest glance of a woman or something, then it's bad. That could just mean that she is now self-destructing the relationship because she doesn't want to be in it anymore yet also doesn't want to be the one to take the blame for it. Either that or she is projecting because she has started seeing some other guy behind your back so she makes herself feel better about it by saying that you are too. That's all subconscious though.
It's all dependent on the situation, as you can see.
It's all dependent on the situation, as you can see.
Speaking as a woman who is extremely intelligent and right about absolutely everything. I can't imagine a life without a good fight now and then. It helps with boundaries I find.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
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WOAH. " right about absolutely everything".... That scares me that you actually believe that
I know, its meant to.
But it is true. I try to restrain myself but if you saw a baby stumbling towards a busy road wouldn't you do something? That is how I feel. I also say to people who do not heed my advice, "I told you that would happen" - which is even more annoying.
Interesting introduction, unusual name you have there. Were you named after your father?
I am sure that while you are obviously not sapient you must be glad you were not named nincompoop instead.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Psst!!! She's 100% DEAD WRONG.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
the only reason that no fights and jealously would mean no passion would be if your woman was so nuts that she can't care about someone without acting like a crazy person
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
JohnChops
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This. I don't remember the last time I actually fought with a girl. Bring her into your reality, which should not consist of conflict.