"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No fights/jealousy = no passion? Yes or no?

lizardking82

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How do you see it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No fights yes. However, no sign of disagreements is something I would call a yellow flag.

Slightly jealousy is always good, dread game is what keeps women in check from straying.
 

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My exwife and I never had any jealousy or fights in all the years we were together. There was plenty of passion and we both had a ton of respect for each other. The key to it all is having two level headed people that can sit down and discuss an issue and try to understand where the other is coming from. If you can do this, you can keep arguments from turning into fights. Neither of us were "jealous" personalities and our effective communication kept the fights from happening. I've had this with one other girl, its very rare to find.
 

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Depends on the situation. It's alright for her to get a little bit worried/insecure if she sees you talking to other chicks CONSTANTLY. I see nothing wrong with that because it just means that she doesn't want to lose you; she cares about you. But if she's using at as a power play to try and guilt-trip you or make you seem like a horrible person over the slightest glance of a woman or something, then it's bad. That could just mean that she is now self-destructing the relationship because she doesn't want to be in it anymore yet also doesn't want to be the one to take the blame for it. Either that or she is projecting because she has started seeing some other guy behind your back so she makes herself feel better about it by saying that you are too. That's all subconscious though.

It's all dependent on the situation, as you can see.
 

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Speaking as a woman who is extremely intelligent and right about absolutely everything. I can't imagine a life without a good fight now and then. It helps with boundaries I find.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Speaking as a woman who is extremely intelligent and right about absolutely everything. I can't imagine a life without a good fight now and then. It helps with boundaries I find.
Jealousy is a strange one. I have never experienced this myself. If I find another woman is or has played about with my hunk of meat, she can have him. I don't like left overs.
When men have exhibited jealousy over me, it makes me feel confused and very guilty. It is not something that I like to feel responsible for.
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WOAH. " right about absolutely everything".... That scares me that you actually believe that
 

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WOAH. " right about absolutely everything".... That scares me that you actually believe that
I know, its meant to.
But it is true. I try to restrain myself but if you saw a baby stumbling towards a busy road wouldn't you do something? That is how I feel. I also say to people who do not heed my advice, "I told you that would happen" - which is even more annoying.
 

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Interesting introduction, unusual name you have there. Were you named after your father?
I am sure that while you are obviously not sapient you must be glad you were not named nincompoop instead.
 

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the only reason that no fights and jealously would mean no passion would be if your woman was so nuts that she can't care about someone without acting like a crazy person
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do I see a no fights, no jealousy relationship?
I see it as PEACEFUL
This. I don't remember the last time I actually fought with a girl. Bring her into your reality, which should not consist of conflict.
 
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