AJHook
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Greetings gentlemen,
As a young prospective DJ machete-ing his way through through the jungle of dating and seduction uncertainty, I'd thought I would bring up topic of discussion which appears to me to be a new obstacle.
As a 28 year old, I have been without a Facebook account for 3 years plus. I won't get into details about why I stopped using it, that's a story for another time. Since I have left the world of social media, I have discovered a new level of attentiveness to the world around me that I had once never attained. This heightened awareness has helped me through my masculine journey in not only meeting women, but also in my academic and professional endeavors and almost all other aspects of my life.
As any good seducer knows, awareness is a key element in attracting women. But there is a bit of a conundrum that I have encountered at this stage. Allow me to elaborate:
Any trained monkey can go out, find chicks, approach, banter and get numbers. While I do these things (in a graceful manner I'd like to think, and not in a primate-like manner) I encounter a great deal of flaky numbers and women. In recognition that this could be due to an infinite number of factors, including the quality of my approach (which is never perfect, but usually above average), I find that a large portion of these women flake. While I understand that this goes with the territory of cold approaching women, there must be something I can do to increase my chances of success...
Lots of the gals that I speak with ask the same question: "How do I find you on Facebook/Instagram?"
Me: "Don't use Facebook/Instagram."
Her: *look of apprehension*
Me: "I prefer to speak on the phone" -or something like it <insert joke/line to get number>
She gives me number...
...and I don't need to spell out the rest.
My thoughts are these:
Would having a well crafted Facebook/Instagram page contribute to success? My thoughts are that lots of women these days are apprehensive to go out on dates with total strangers after having chatted briefly in location x. The only context/frame a woman has of me was from our interaction. What if my game was off a bit, but she still thinks I'm attractive? It could be 50/50 for her for a number of reasons. Facebook acts as a mechanism of modern social proof, it shows pictures with you and others, friends, etc...If she had the option of stalking me a bit on social media and found that she would like to go out etc, could having social media be the catalyst for getting dates/fewer flaky encounters? What are your experiences with social media as a form of social proof?
Your feedback is valued gentlemen.
Cheers,
Hook
As a young prospective DJ machete-ing his way through through the jungle of dating and seduction uncertainty, I'd thought I would bring up topic of discussion which appears to me to be a new obstacle.
As a 28 year old, I have been without a Facebook account for 3 years plus. I won't get into details about why I stopped using it, that's a story for another time. Since I have left the world of social media, I have discovered a new level of attentiveness to the world around me that I had once never attained. This heightened awareness has helped me through my masculine journey in not only meeting women, but also in my academic and professional endeavors and almost all other aspects of my life.
As any good seducer knows, awareness is a key element in attracting women. But there is a bit of a conundrum that I have encountered at this stage. Allow me to elaborate:
Any trained monkey can go out, find chicks, approach, banter and get numbers. While I do these things (in a graceful manner I'd like to think, and not in a primate-like manner) I encounter a great deal of flaky numbers and women. In recognition that this could be due to an infinite number of factors, including the quality of my approach (which is never perfect, but usually above average), I find that a large portion of these women flake. While I understand that this goes with the territory of cold approaching women, there must be something I can do to increase my chances of success...
Lots of the gals that I speak with ask the same question: "How do I find you on Facebook/Instagram?"
Me: "Don't use Facebook/Instagram."
Her: *look of apprehension*
Me: "I prefer to speak on the phone" -or something like it <insert joke/line to get number>
She gives me number...
...and I don't need to spell out the rest.
My thoughts are these:
Would having a well crafted Facebook/Instagram page contribute to success? My thoughts are that lots of women these days are apprehensive to go out on dates with total strangers after having chatted briefly in location x. The only context/frame a woman has of me was from our interaction. What if my game was off a bit, but she still thinks I'm attractive? It could be 50/50 for her for a number of reasons. Facebook acts as a mechanism of modern social proof, it shows pictures with you and others, friends, etc...If she had the option of stalking me a bit on social media and found that she would like to go out etc, could having social media be the catalyst for getting dates/fewer flaky encounters? What are your experiences with social media as a form of social proof?
Your feedback is valued gentlemen.
Cheers,
Hook
