mrgoodstuff
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No contact, she reached out
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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RicBoy
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Let's see what happens. I wish I could get this girl back. Less than 2 weeks she will reach out to ask when she can pick him up.
I'm gonna have to play this right this time or she will run again. Last time in Xmas when he went over, she spent all night texting me pics of him and her daughter
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She never met me face to face after the break up 3 months ago. Would a message like this to her would be weak?
"7 months together, introduced to all my family, and I'm not even worth of a coffee to get some closure. Really painful the way you acted post break up"
"7 months together, introduced to all my family, and I'm not even worth of a coffee to get some closure. Really painful the way you acted post break up"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MrWood
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so much butthurt
dont send this, please
(note: my LTR ghosted me after 4yr, I know how you feel)
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You must be in pain.
What would you do in my case? She will Reach out in less than 2 weeks to plan to come to pick up my kid. I begged 2 weeks ago for 4 days after 1,5 months of no contact when she reached out. We have been broken up for 3 months.
She will come to pick him up, should I come downstairs with him, or better be at work and my kid comes downstairs alone? And when she drops him off my kid has the key I can be be work again. Would be better not see her, maybe she can see i don't care and sees a change in my behavior and wonder?
MrWood
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Go downstairs, say goodbye and act like she is the babysitter, an OLD grandmother, your kids friends mom or some random teen...
someone your only focus is taking care of your kid for the time away.
Act normal and netural, do not ask her out or ask her anything, she is not your friend, not your lover and not your interest.
let her do the wondering...
and you will go out for a walk, feel good...
smile at random women and rebirth yourself into who you are without her.
let her do the wondering.
someone your only focus is taking care of your kid for the time away.
Act normal and netural, do not ask her out or ask her anything, she is not your friend, not your lover and not your interest.
let her do the wondering...
and you will go out for a walk, feel good...
smile at random women and rebirth yourself into who you are without her.
let her do the wondering.
RicBoy
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Are u sure is not best to be busy at work? Let her wonder?
MrWood
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do anything that you want
they key is to be indifferent to her, not to ignore completely (or she will know you are ignoring her, which is a sign you are not)
they key is to be indifferent to her, not to ignore completely (or she will know you are ignoring her, which is a sign you are not)
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Yeah indifference is the key for sure. It's
3 months broken up, she could even be seeing already someone, chasing her at this point would look very bad especially for the case of she is seeing someone. I'll probably not see her now.. April my son comes again. Maybe I'll see her then during the exchange
RicBoy
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Bro I'm having a hard time to see her in the kids exchange because this girl disrespected me a lot. She called me sociopath when I told her she couldn't see my kid unless we're dating. She told me straight she had no feelings, no interest, she didn't want anything from me or anything to do with me. She rejected my coffee invitations and said there's nothing to talk about. After all these , I really don't know if being cool and indifferent is the best option.. Or just walk away, not show up during kids exchange and force her to actually do something if she wants too see me, like texting me or inviting me to do something with the kids for example.
Let me know what u think.
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You put yourself in this situation by repeatedly making the same mistake over and over again. Why do you want a woman who doesn't want you?
Go find someone interested in you and stop all this silliness.
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Sounds good yeah but I still have a kid that I have to bring to her or have her pick him up. And I really don't know if I wanna see her face to face
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Bro you gotta man up and forget about her. You can’t fix this she looks at you like your beneath her block her and move on since you can’t control yourself when she contacts you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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She is done with me. She is only interested in this connection with the kids, that's her words, when she reached out and I asked her for coffee.
She will reach ou in one week to plan about the kids, I need to start handling this well
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When she reaches out in a week to plan about the kid pick up time. I'll take a day or so to reply. I'll be short and straight to the point. Not gonna invite her for anything more, not gonna ask anything about her. And this one I'm not sure 100% but I think I won't be present during the kids exchange, trying to imply I don't really care to see her face to face anymore. Because I'm sure she thinks I'll be using my kid as a pawn to see her during the exhanges.
That's all I can do.