“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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True true. My motivation for getting all As is the clout and to boost my GPA. I wanna be that "super smart dude," I need to get it to a 3+ ASAP. I'm nearly there already. If I can be a dude with work experience, personal projects, and a 3.1 GPA? I would hire me, so I'm sure others would too.
Look at what it would enable you for internships and career prospects. Chasing grades is useless otherwise if it won't enable you to pivot for employment.

Put together a application, apps, and a portfolio. I would hire you for a banging portfolio with apps you built and platforms you made IRL. Employers are seeing PhD grads not able to execute in the biz world.

And pretty bad with the baes tbh. I'm really crippled at home without a car. If I had one I would drive down to the mall or downtown and Sarge solo every day. My friends have zero interest in Game so I've only been able to go out once or twice a week with my friends. I approach whenever out. But it'll get easier when I get back to school I'm thinking. ESPECIALLY with Week of Welcome. My goal is to do 25 Cold Approaches in that week alone. The fastest way for me to crush it is to get that 5th Bang.
Calibrate. Fine tune. Debrief.

At least I've gotten it through my thick skull that you can meet women anywhere. Day approaches in college are fine as long as you do it in a social way. I'll be going with some friends to get coffee today so I'll put my Daygame to work while out.

Thoughts on Gym Approaches? Maybe I should man up and do some of those. Like approaching if you see a cute chick at the gym you go to every day? I'm sure there are threads on this. And I'm sure it's easier for you since you're DEEZED but same concept lol.
Small talk. Break ice. See regulars. Repeat.

Small talk. Bounce. Lift. Repeat.

I called a chick Arnold once and she gave me her #. Its not what you say or do. Its about Being 'that guy.' gym approach, i treat almost like a club or party approach. Stupid enthusiastic, high energy.

Always bounce out before her. Bait and switch.

I'm honestly thinking that for me, Cold Approach is gonna be the way to go to get my Bang over social circle. I realize college is a social game. But I'm still working on stuff that'll make me fit in more, like music and dancing. So I'd honestly rather just approach my ass off until I find a girl who likes me lol. Once again, much easier on campus lol.

You told me not to burn it to the ground on campus, and I'm a numbers guy, so let's put a number to it! What's the max amount of women you would approach in a week on a small college campus? I'll fill in the gaps with nightgame for my 3x a day.
Disregard approach or pickup lingo. Its lame. Its nerdy. Furthermore, it will put you in your head.

Chat up girls everywhere. Be that dude who just is that guy. Be cognizant of fallout. Of women who will gaslight. There's fallout. Be warned. Furthermore, guys you call friends can turn on you.

I am that guy. I am unapologetic. There's fallout. I don't care. Be warned.

I am a bit of a a sociopath. I simply don't care. If you care, tread lightly.

If you are the guy running through campus with a flame thrower, you will get burned.
 

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Why can’t you get a car? Do you have $3000 cash to spare, that extra on the side?
The $1,200 I had saved I ended up spending on a class this summer. So I'm back to square one. You recommended a government auction car or Craigslist car right?
 

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You gotta have a car in usa, it’s not like russia where public transportation is prevalent, anywhere same time on bus or metro. Forget what I recomended. Gotta have a good car you won’t pit much money into, since you not mechanic. Where what city you live in?
 

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You gotta have a car in usa, it’s not like russia where public transportation is prevalent, anywhere same time on bus or metro. Forget what I recomended. Gotta have a good car you won’t pit much money into, since you not mechanic. Where what city you live in?
I agree. From my research I'll need about $5,000. May just have to get one once I graduate but I'm saving rn. I stay in Tennessee but I'll keep the city private so I don't get doxxed too hard lol
 

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Look at what it would enable you for internships and career prospects. Chasing grades is useless otherwise if it won't enable you to pivot for employment.

Put together a application, apps, and a portfolio. I would hire you for a banging portfolio with apps you built and platforms you made IRL. Employers are seeing PhD grads not able to execute in the biz world.



Calibrate. Fine tune. Debrief.



Small talk. Break ice. See regulars. Repeat.

Small talk. Bounce. Lift. Repeat.

I called a chick Arnold once and she gave me her #. Its not what you say or do. Its about Being 'that guy.' gym approach, i treat almost like a club or party approach. Stupid enthusiastic, high energy.

Always bounce out before her. Bait and switch.



Disregard approach or pickup lingo. Its lame. Its nerdy. Furthermore, it will put you in your head.

Chat up girls everywhere. Be that dude who just is that guy. Be cognizant of fallout. Of women who will gaslight. There's fallout. Be warned. Furthermore, guys you call friends can turn on you.

I am that guy. I am unapologetic. There's fallout. I don't care. Be warned.

I am a bit of a a sociopath. I simply don't care. If you care, tread lightly.

If you are the guy running through campus with a flame thrower, you will get burned.
I wanna be 'that guy' as well. And actually, being a sociopath sounds like fun. Lmao.
 

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I stay in Tennessee but
You see, I watch youtube channels of ex-soviet truckers. They everywhere in the us. I ask you city, so I could ask them advice about this subject. PM me your city, I'll ask. You gotta realize, these are the people who know thing or two about cars, they ate it, they know. Their experience to you to consume. You can ask sazc, she called me, I don't fvck around with numbers, not my thing. Your privacy is guaranteed, just say the city in pm.
 

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I wanna be 'that guy' as well. And actually, being a sociopath sounds like fun. Lmao.
Maybe. Not quite. I am just pragmatic when it comes to pulling baaaaae. I do it for sport.

In Bhagavad Gita, Krishna does not propagate war. He encourages Arjuna to do his duty as a warrior. ... So Bhagavad Gita is the summary of God's instructions to mankind on how to do one's bodily duty, but He ends His divine sermon by stressing the duty of the soul - which is to surrender to God.


Nick mate, you cannot take this or anything with you when you go to the next place. Pick your damn sacrifice; that which is worth going out on your **** for.

I seek self knowledge. I explore consciousness (dmt, ayahuasca, 4aco, etc). I pursue self actualization. I cannot take anything with me when I hit the old dusty trail. I am after the experience. I'm after Wins.

In the words of Bruce Lee, "immortality is in living a life worth remembering."

Happy hunting!
 

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Nick mate, did you read MM?

One of the things science shows is that, men are more visual. Women are but not as much as men. One element Mystery emphasise on is DHV and storytelling. Women are hell bent on storytelling. Its why they muckkk fifty shades. The art of storytelling is superb. To men, it seems gay. Full homo. I don't get it.

If hot, our mind registers, "would smash more than once."

Acquire the gift of gab. That million dollar mouth piece. Spit game. Storytelling. Learn to banter. Learn to cut threads, break rapport whereby the flow is killing attraction. Lower agreeableness. Increase conscientiousness. Better your awareness. Pattern recognition is key. You can spot attraction, pulls, when to push or #next.
 

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Nick mate, did you read MM?

One of the things science shows is that, men are more visual. Women are but not as much as men. One element Mystery emphasise on is DHV and storytelling. Women are hell bent on storytelling. Its why they muckkk fifty shades. The art of storytelling is superb. To men, it seems gay. Full homo. I don't get it.

If hot, our mind registers, "would smash more than once."

Acquire the gift of gab. That million dollar mouth piece. Spit game. Storytelling. Learn to banter. Learn to cut threads, break rapport whereby the flow is killing attraction. Lower agreeableness. Increase conscientiousness. Better your awareness. Pattern recognition is key. You can spot attraction, pulls, when to push or #next.
I have indeed read Mystery Method. Very helpful for those Nightgame Approaches.

My original plan was to not update this journal at all until midterms, but I think this Daygame discussion is enough to warrant posts cause it's critical that I break my slump. I want to be able to approach women anywhere, at any time.

I put my money where my mouth is yesterday and approached a couple hotties at the gym. In Day Game, you have to ramble a bit. But surprisingly, the women did like 75% of the talking for me. When they're doing that, I need to learn to shut the fvck up and roll with it lol.

Usually in Daygame me talking there and rambling for a while to build the comfort isn't an issue at all. But since I was at the gym, I blew it lol. A voice in my head told me "quit talking, she's trying to finish her set of squats." And I ejected early BOTH TIMES. I'm wondering if I should've just gotten her number very fast(in like 3 minutes) or if I should've just kept talking until she shooed me away lol. I know Gym Approaches are indeed a thing cause I've played weddings for people who have met in the Gym.

I was planning on doing a third when I hit the coffee shop with my friends. Saw this really cute Asian girl that I wanted to open. However, she was in a group of 3 so I really had no idea how to open. I've definitely had to deal with groups in my Night Game. But I'm not exactly sure how to deal with them in the day. At Night, I can be more ****y and arrogant, but in the Day I'm more laid back. So I'm not exactly sure how I would approach a group during the day. Any tips on that? I want to be able to open any girl anywhere no matter the circumstances.
 

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8/24/19: Pre Classes

Ok screw it. I said I wasn't updating until midterms but I want to do an update. I've been working so. I don't care how long this thing gets as long as I succeed.

In the past 3 days, I've done 9 Approaches and gotten 4 numbers. Doing my 3 a Day, Daygame is fvcking KING. I love this stuff. Honestly it's just about as fun as Night Game to me.

Approaching groups is really tough during the day. I've been trying to talk to groups using situational openers and such. But a lot of the time they would just laugh(cause I said something kinda funny) and then get back to whatever the hell they were doing. Maybe I need to ramble to the whole group more? I kind of feel like a goober rambling to a group during the day for extended periods of time. But maybe that's just my insecurities talking? I make sure to do it in a social way. You all tell me.

You know what'd be a good way for me to get involved and meet some new women? Joining clubs. That's more like social circle game at that point. I will definitely do that.

My challenge to myself was to approach 2 sorority girls at this Welcome Week Convocation that we had today but that was kind of an epic fail. I was out alone, and they were all in different cliquey groups. I absolutely must become comfortable with going out alone. I just psyched myself out I suppose. I should be able to do approaches like this, I'll just go even harder next time.

As for this friendzone bullsh*t that I've been going on about for ages... I came to a realization today. I believe it'd actually be better to use them as social proof and going out due to my own experience. A female friend came out to one of my shows and brought along a hot ass friend. I made sure to number close her. We're playing chess, not checkers here. The females think they're winning in this case by trying to use me for my nonsexual attention, but in the long run, I win. It gives me more opportunities to go out, and therefore approach new women in a social way and get some more Bangs. If she don't wanna fvck, she's dead to me. No use crying over spilt milk. I'll just use them to go places, and therefore meet new women. On top of that, pvssy attracts pvssy.

Regarding going out alone in that huge event in the plaza, I just didn't know what to do with myself. I didn't want to just circle around and randomly approach people. I just didn't really know how to handle myself. If you guys have any tips that would be great, I'll also be watching some videos on this. I'll be going out alone tonight as well cause that skill obviously needs some work.

I was mad at myself about the Daygame sh*t, so I got some Night Approaches in as well.

I'm wondering which method I should use at Night. The Dr. Nerdlove Attraction Plan: Have an opener, neg, build comfort, ramble, and then eventually introduce flirting to build attraction: or the classic Mystery Attraction->Comfort->Seduction? I like how the Mystery Method is very structured. But at the same time, using the Nerdlove Attraction Plan is very freeing and it really gets me out of my head. I remember I tried to do an approach using only M3 and it came off as very stiff, I was limited in what I could say. On the other hand, Mystery Method is an amazing book and it has so many different valid points. I'm thinking that I may just keep using the Nerdlove Method for the freedom but tailor it a bit with info from other PUAs. Like having a standard opI only worry that I may come off as a Nice Guy by starting by building Rapport. I'd like you all's opinions on this if at all possible.

Ok and NOW I'll be gone until Midterms or my 5th Bang lol. Either or.

SIDENOTE:
Also... I'm gaming as a guy who flirts at the moment, but one thing that I want to do for sure is to not come off as too 'Nice.' I'm thinking that I come off as very nice rn. The gym is one way to fix that, but I want to keep working on developing that c0cky, arrogant swag even if I do flirt. It's gonna be the key to getting what I want. Girls are extremely quick to friendzone guys who are "nice." So it's gotta fvcking go. The fastest way I can think of to get rid of the niceness is the Self Improvement. Girls like assh0les, after all.
 
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You all tell me.
The only way to get better is to try. Fail first. Fail again. Fail less than before. Succeed.


You know what'd be a good way for me to get involved and meet some new women?
Good idea, but you probably need less distractions based on our convo.
As for this friendzone bullsh*t that I've been going on about for ages...
It really doesn't need to make it as complicated as we've made it out to be. Just hang out with people you enjoy hanging out with. The problem is perhaps hanging out with girls only. Especially if they're just your friends. Recently I invited a bunch of people to take a trip to the farmer's market. All the guys flaked. They were 'sick/busy', idk whatever. So I end up going with 5 girls. I had fun, but I felt weird about being there alone with them. I had already tried to kiss/number close two of them but they were cool enough that we decided to be friends. So I invited them. The guys not being there though.. I thought maybe this says something about my ability to lead other men, something we've talked a lot about recently on the forum. But this one instance alone isn't enough to definitively say that's the problem. Girls like the farmer's market. Guys.. maybe not as much. Plus these are all new people that I had met within 2 weeks before going. Anyways, it's not a huge deal. Just have fun. Be a leader in groups you join/create. It's not about getting a bang all the time.
I just didn't really know how to handle myself.
Why were you alone at a social event?
 

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Girls like assh0les, after all.
Girls don't like assh*les. They like men with a spine. Men who will say and do what they want regardless of how it may affect their chances with the girl. It just so happens that assh*oles fit the bill.
 

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Yo @GrowingPains ... I'm finally getting around to this update lol.

So hey guys. I've been a long time... that's because I wanted to take a really really long break from all this stuff until I felt better about my life. I was in a really negative space, so I wanted to live a bit, clear my head, and go in hard on the Self-Improvement before I updated this again. I've made a lot of positive changes.

So let's get started....

Grades

Two semesters have passed since I updated this journal. I've done decently for myself in both. I aim to graduate this December.

In the Fall, I made a 3.0 semester GPA. The most important thing was that I made it out of Ethics of Computer Science so I could get into all my upper division courses. Which I did.

Here are my grades for this Semester:
ASTR 1010, Solar System Astronomy: B
CSC 3410, Assembly Programming: D
CSC 4610, Software Engineering I : B
CSC 4710, Design and Development of Web/Human Interfaces: B
CSC 4200, Computer Networks: C
MUS 1300, Private Violin: A
MUS 1080, University Orchestra: A

Pretty "eh" grades, but all passing. This makes my overall GPA right now a 2.7. I would like to be slightly above a 2.8 by the time I get out of college.

I made it out of Assembly by the skin of my teeth. The reason for that is my programs epically failed. I passed because I was able to do really well on all of the tests. I did start early like @mrgoodstuff said, but I didn't program enough each day. When I take my next programming courses, I need to set myself small programming sub-goals. Although I have to say, I am SO glad I'm done with Assembly lol.

I'll be in classes this summer as well. Mostly Gen Eds and math. The only actual coding course I'll be taking is CSC 3100, Web Programming.

Vehicle

One of the things that really irritated me is that I didn't have a car. Last Fall, I saved $2000 from the music shows I was doing, and purchased a 2009 Chevy Malibu. So there's one of the "Four C's" down. I'm practicing my driving every day.

Fitness

I've been really going in. Lots of running. I'm down 10 pounds. I'm still lifting in the home gym in my garage. I've managed to work myself up to 25 minutes of running without stopping. I'm following @mrgoodstuff 's program and it's working really well. I watch my carbs, but I will say I'm never giving up my sandwiches for lunch, even if I have clean nutrition everywhere else lol. I'll be taking advantage of this quarantine to keep running.
 

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5/16/2020 Pt. 2

Music


My goal with violin is, by the time I graduate, to be a virtuoso. I'm moving closer to this goal. I've been in two professional music albums now, my band just recorded our second one this Spring. I absolutely LOVED working in the booth, and getting to write a big chunk of the parts and harmonies in the studio. I'll be credited as a songwriter when our album releases. It makes me feel that all my music education is paying off. I want to be able to play the Tchaikovsky Violin Concerto by the time I graduate. My teacher says I'm doing very well, and that's a reasonable goal. I've been practicing every day over quarantine. I've been doing more violin playing than composing.

Confidence

I was seriously struggling with confidence before, even though I knew about the principles of this website. The only thing that worked for me was what teachingmensfashion and AMS said: the confidence comes from the Self Improvement. I go into more detail on it in this thread here:



Productivity

Another thing I really struggled with in the day was productivity. Shoutout to @GrowingPains for putting me on Cal Newport. I've pretty much stolen his techniques for being productive, and my life has changed for the better. It's so simple: define what you need in your life, and write down the big goals. Then put dates on your calendar. Every day, break it into small goals. Schedule in timed breaks. Work the whole day, and have your timed breaks. That's it. Rigid schedules never worked for me, but with this new method I've been able to get so much done in school and music.

Another thing that really helps me is music. I play music all day while I work, it makes me so productive. Even if I'm not looking forward to what I have to do that day, I look forward to the music I'm going to listen to. ESPECIALLY classical music. Sometimes I let a symphony play, listen to the whole thing, and work the whole way through. After that, I take a ten minute break. I did this for all of my finals and my grades were great.


So this is how I handle the whole productivity thing. I think this'll be a good life strategy. Thanks, Cal Newport. So simple but effective.

Waves/Self Confidence/Looksmaxxxing

I was STRUGGLING with my hair back in the day. But I've been talking to a few people in the wave community, and now my waves are pretty killer. I FINALLY feel good about myself. Whenever I put in the brushwork, I do audiobooks usually. I'm listening to 48 Laws of Power right now, which is freaking amazing.

Here's how I'm looking. Excuse the fact that I have no fresh cut, I haven't been able to see a barber cause quarantine.

 
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5/16/2020 Pt. 2

Music


My goal with violin is, by the time I graduate, to be a virtuoso. I'm moving closer to this goal. I've been in two professional music albums now, my band just recorded our second one this Spring. I absolutely LOVED working in the booth, and getting to write a big chunk of the parts and harmonies in the studio. I'll be credited as a songwriter when our album releases. It makes me feel that all my music education is paying off. I want to be able to play the Tchaikovsky Violin Concerto by the time I graduate. My teacher says I'm doing very well, and that's a reasonable goal. I've been practicing every day over quarantine. I've been doing more violin playing than composing.

Confidence

I was seriously struggling with confidence before, even though I knew about the principles of this website. The only thing that worked for me was what teachingmensfashion and AMS said: the confidence comes from the Self Improvement. I go into more detail on it in this thread here:



Productivity

Another thing I really struggled with in the day was productivity. Shoutout to @GrowingPains for putting me on Cal Newport. I've pretty much stolen his techniques for being productive, and my life has changed for the better. It's so simple: define what you need in your life, and write down the big goals. Then put dates on your calendar. Every day, break it into small goals. Schedule in timed breaks. Work the whole day, and have your timed breaks. That's it. Rigid schedules never worked for me, but with this new method I've been able to get so much done in school and music.

Another thing that really helps me is music. I play music all day while I work, it makes me so productive. Even if I'm not looking forward to what I have to do that day, I look forward to the music I'm going to listen to. ESPECIALLY classical music. Sometimes I let a symphony play, listen to the whole thing, and work the whole way through. After that, I take a ten minute break. I did this for all of my finals and my grades were great.


So this is how I handle the whole productivity thing. I think this'll be a good life strategy. Thanks, Cal Newport. So simple but effective.

Waves/Self Confidence/Looksmaxxxing

I was STRUGGLING with my hair back in the day. But I've been talking to a few people in the wave community, and now my waves are pretty killer. I FINALLY feel good about myself. Whenever I put in the brushwork, I do audiobooks usually. I'm listening to 48 Laws of Power right now, which is freaking amazing.

Here's how I'm looking. Excuse the fact that I have no fresh cut, I haven't been able to see a barber cause quarantine.

Waves on point
 

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Girls/Cold Approaches

I'm getting a lot happier with how my Game is progressing. I've Banged 7 girls in my life so far, which isn't too bad. Here's a link to my 7th Bang Report.


I realize this number is somewhat arbitrary, but for me to be happy with how my college experience turned out, I'd like to have banged 12 girls by the time I walk the stage. I think that's pretty impressive, and it'll show that I have a solid grasp of the game.

I need more VOLUME. I've been talking with @Young OG and @fastlife a lot about this. One of my biggest problems is I care too much, and I've been scared to approach on campus. Well, I have no fear anymore. I've done 200 Cold Approaches in my life. By the end of this year, I need to have done 500-600, with a big chunk of those being on campus. Definitely need to lay a lot more university students before I get out of here. I think these numbers are reasonable, I'll just have to put in a lot of effort. I'll be playing more with direct game as well.

Just like @GrowingPains said, "How do you get a new bang? Discipline. Swipe. Approach."

And just like @Young OG said, you really have to not give a fvck about what other people think of you. I am seriously going all out and getting mine this last semester(assuming corona doesn't fvck us over.)

Another thing is going out alone sometimes. My friends don't want to go out nearly as frequently as I do. So I still go out with them, but if they don't want to go out, I have no qualms hitting up a bar, club, concert, or any event at all alone now. I'm totally over it. I've done it a handful of times and had fun most times. I know @fastlife has talked about this a lot, and I feel like I'm finally getting to that level.

I'm not really meeting women during the quarantine. All I'm doing is the Self Improvement. So that once school is back in, there are NO inner game issues, I'm just going hard.

I won't say too much more on this, I know what I need to do. I'll let my field reports speak for themselves. But if I have 12 total lays and 500 approaches for my college experience, I'll be proud. And I think that goal is reasonable.

CS Plan

@Papa_smu gave me an excellent plan for making myself extremely marketable once I graduate. I'll be out in December, and if something insane happens then Spring at the absolute latest. The finish line is in sight.

Here's the thread we were talking in. But long story short, I have my work cut out for me. I need to be learning and programming every single day, outside of class.


I'm going to post monthly updates in here on my progress so you guys can see what I've been coding.


Journal Plan

I originally said that I want to end/lock this journal once I graduate college, and all my college goals have been won. That still holds. I'll be doing updates every 2 weeks to once a month until then. Probably once a month. This used to be a daily journal, but I really don't think that's necessary. I know what I need to do, so I'll just keep you guys updated intermittently.

Fin

But yeah, that's what I've been up to while I've been gone! I'll see you guys next month with an update!
 
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I'm glad I started checking the forums again just in time for my boi Nicksaiz to drop some heat ufeeme.

When I take my next programming courses, I need to set myself small programming sub-goals.
Bro I was just thinking... if you can raise your GPA that will give you a story to tell employers. Sure, you may not have always been at the top... but you figured out what it took to transform yourself from the bottom and start making headway towards it. That is a really powerful story. Think about the things you learned (see quote). These are really important things to be able to convey to employers!

Last Fall, I saved $2000 from the music shows I was doing, and purchased a 2009 Chevy Malibu.
Congrats on the whip bruvvy. One thing that you may or may not have thought about already is that the car will need maintenance - especially if you bought it for $2000 (?). It might be a good use of your time to start learning to do your own car maintenance and fix simple things to keep your car running. $300 repairs can become $50 if you know how to do it yourself.

By the end of this year, I need to have done 500-600, with a big chunk of those being on campus
Sure, definitely get the volume up. Just be cautious of developing a reputation as 'that guy'. I know you wanna be 'that guy' but you don't wanna be 'that guy'. There have been times I go to the dining hall and there's 4 girls there that I've approached at one point... it can feel a little awkward. At that point I realized I need to chill a little bit. At least until I can be comfortable with that scenario.

Also, consider the scenario where approaching becomes too much effort. It may impact your mental health. Who knows why, I'm just saying it might. Perhaps creating a lot of frequent anxiety. Sure it's good to keep pushing forward... but remember what your #1 priority is. If approaching needs to take a back seat for a little while, that's okay. Godspeed though.

NO inner game issues
I hope this is true... but it will probably be difficult. Consider that you want to stop using your phone so much. So you delete Instagram, delete twitter and whatever else. After a while you will start to lose the urge to even check them - because they're not there. Okay, cool. Now you re-download them because you have this newfound sense of independence from the apps. But you find that in a week you're back to your old self. What gives? Well, you didn't actually change the behavior, you changed the environment. And because the behavior was still there... once you restore the environment... it resurfaces. So just don't put too much pressure on yourself for your inner game issues to be gone once quarantine is over. Hopefully they are better, but if you haven't been practicing approaching for a while... you can see how it'd be hard to expect that they'd be gone right? You can shoot 1000 shots in practice (self improvement) and still miss during the game (approaching). There's so many variables that you can't account for in the game through practice... so the only thing to do is to put yourself in more game situations. Dig?

I need to be learning and programming every single day
I didn't read the post. But just be careful of extreme statements. Adherence is key. Sustainability -> consistency. Consistency -> results. Be honest with yourself about how much you can push yourself. I want to make it clear I'm not saying not to go hard, I'm just saying to set reasonable expectations so that you don't disappoint yourself and set yourself up for failure.


And most importantly: DAMN DAT BOI WAVY!!!!!!!! Alexa, play Drowning by A Boogie wit da Hoodie. Thanks.

Rooting for you bruv, this is MAJOR progress. Just keep pushing. There will be setbacks. The goals may change (+/-) but all that matters is that you keep pushing. You're doing great.
 
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