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Try engaging in something more productive when relaxing. Something that doesn't make you feel tired in a negative way.

Also about game, you need to drop the notion of ****ing unless you are actually doing it. Drop the 100 concept because its dogmatic. You approach because its fun, socializing is fun. If sex happens cool, if not, well I socialized and thats cool. Approach when you feel like it :) Discipline is good but sometimes you have to go on easy mode on yourself by giving yourself many many chances.

Daygame, you see a girl, go say a compliment, if she's receptive, say hi, I'm nick etc. 1 minute convo to then 2 minute convo to 5 minute convo and then you spread it out. I would even say ignore saying to yourself "I'm going to do daygame", because its always on! Say to yourself, "socializing is something that every healthy person does, I will look good today and dress well, and I will not be reserved with strangers because I would make their day if I talk to them, they want to be talked ". Thats it, you aren't getting to **** them, but to have fun. Your lizard brain wants sex but your cool brain wants fun. Talking to humans is fun.
That's a great positive mindset. I kinda have to think about it in the context of an approach cause that's just who I am, but I can think about it socially as well.

To relax today, I worked on my goal of being a composer. This new synth I picked up is a beast. Makes me want to write a new retro type beat. Really inspiring sounds.

Anecdotally, I saw a woman with the PHATTEST ass at the gym today. I couldn't really approach because she was wearing headphones(you're not supposed to approach those types of girls according to Dr. Nerdlove) but man. I wanna be a great PUA who can do an approach literally anywhere, not just at bars. This'll be a great goal for me this summer and next semester.

Hey @GrowingPains if I'm working on making a male friend and they post sh*t on their Snapchat story that we both like(music stuff mostly) is it ok to comment on stuff like that multiple times? Or will it just look like I'm brown nosing? I've never really actively thought about this lol.
 

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That's a great positive mindset. I kinda have to think about it in the context of an approach cause that's just who I am, but I can think about it socially as well.

To relax today, I worked on my goal of being a composer. This new synth I picked up is a beast. Makes me want to write a new retro type beat. Really inspiring sounds.

Anecdotally, I saw a woman with the PHATTEST ass at the gym today. I couldn't really approach because she was wearing headphones(you're not supposed to approach those types of girls according to Dr. Nerdlove) but man. I wanna be a great PUA who can do an approach literally anywhere, not just at bars. This'll be a great goal for me this summer and next semester.

Hey @GrowingPains if I'm working on making a male friend and they post sh*t on their Snapchat story that we both like(music stuff mostly) is it ok to comment on stuff like that multiple times? Or will it just look like I'm brown nosing? I've never really actively thought about this lol.
My first instinct is to say don't overthink it.

But what are you talking about specifically? What are they paying that you wanna talk about?

I think what @shouldbefun suggested is a great mindset to have. I have thought about this briefly recently. I don't like the mindset I'm in. Every girl I see is 'should I approach/what do I say/some other calculating bs'. Im not sure if these thoughts can be entirely eliminated. But an ideal way of thinking would be 'that person seems interesting, lemme see if they're friendly.' rather than evaluating every person all the time and instantly trying to get in a girl's pants from the get go. I feel so thirsty with the latter mindset. And unnatural, might I add.

I would prefer to go somewhere and just be genuinely interested in interacting with anyone there. Regardless of sex. I think this would lead to a large social circle at the least and a large social circle does the work for you. Most of it anyways. And if you can approach a girl with indifference and wanting to get to know her... That's all there is to an approach. This is something that could be learned from the BigDave threads. I see hot girls with random ass dudes all the time on campus. Do you think they cold approached? Fvck no. Of course if you want to be intimate with the girl then you need to eventually (3 mins into the convo or 3 convos later, whatever) treat her differently than you would a friend. But to me this seems to be the appropriate way to create abundance with regard to friends and women with the same approach.

Rambled a lot but I'm just trynna say that if I could just genuinely want to get to know people, other things will fall in place. Making friends. Connections. Women to date. Opportunities will present themselves by creating such a network.
 
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My first instinct is to say don't overthink it.

But what are you talking about specifically? What are they paying that you wanna talk about?

I think what @shouldbefun suggested is a great mindset to have. I have thought about this briefly recently. I don't like the mindset I'm in. Every girl I see is 'should I approach/what do I say/some other calculating bs'. Im not sure if these thoughts can be entirely eliminated. But an ideal way of thinking would be 'that person seems interesting, lemme see if they're friendly.' rather than evaluating every person all the time and instantly trying to get in a girl's pants from the get go. I feel so thirsty with the latter mindset. And unnatural, might I add.

I would prefer to go somewhere and just be genuinely interested in interacting with anyone there. Regardless of sex. I think this would lead to a large social circle at the least and a large social circle does the work for you. Most of it anyways. And if you can approach a girl with indifference and wanting to get to know her... That's all there is to an approach. This is something that could be learned from the BigDave threads. I see hot girls with random ass dudes all the time on campus. Do you think they cold approached? Fvck no. Of course if you want to be intimate with the girl then you need to eventually (3 mins into the convo or 3 convos later, whatever) treat her differently than you would a friend. But to me this seems to be the appropriate way to create abundance with regard to friends and women with the same approach.

Rambled a lot but I'm just trynna say that if I could just genuinely want to get to know people, other things will fall in place. Making friends. Connections. Women to date. Opportunities will present themselves by creating such a network.
Like for instance if someone was playing a track with a dope drop on their Snap story, and I slide up and I'm like "yeah that's dope dude." We've discussed writing music at some point as well. Just things like that.

College is indeed a social game, but honestly I don't think it's impossible to meet someone there by Cold Approach and I'm really interested to try more often. I was actually asking about this in my interview with Dr. Nerdlove. Anything at college is technically a warm approach anyways since you're both students. That's why it's so important to kill those Self Limiting beliefs lol.

But yeah man I'll be working on that. Weird conversation I know, but I've always just let friends happen naturally instead of actively trying to make them. I think this is referred to as "Active Social Circle Creation" as opposed to Passive?

Random sidenote, extraneous purchases are the devil for financial stability. I've cut down on those by being totally logical about what I need to get instead of emotional. We do impulse buys out of emotion, after all.
 

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Like for instance if someone was playing a track with a dope drop on their Snap story, and I slide up and I'm like "yeah that's dope dude." We've discussed writing music at some point as well. Just things like that.

College is indeed a social game, but honestly I don't think it's impossible to meet someone there by Cold Approach and I'm really interested to try more often. I was actually asking about this in my interview with Dr. Nerdlove. Anything at college is technically a warm approach anyways since you're both students. That's why it's so important to kill those Self Limiting beliefs lol.

But yeah man I'll be working on that. Weird conversation I know, but I've always just let friends happen naturally instead of actively trying to make them. I think this is referred to as "Active Social Circle Creation" as opposed to Passive?

Random sidenote, extraneous purchases are the devil for financial stability. I've cut down on those by being totally logical about what I need to get instead of emotional. We do impulse buys out of emotion, after all.
I'm not saying don't cold approach. I'm saying it doesn't have to be the main thing. Just as you said earlier in the journal. I think it's fine to cold approach. I still do it. But the benefits of having a large social circle are far more than anything cold approaching can do for you. Sure, I've made friends and prospects via cold approaching and will continue to do so. But I think building a large social circle and just wanting to be friendly with people is the main way to go.

I'm still unsure about your question about the guy with the beats on Snapchat. I don't have Snapchat but I would just wait until I saw em in person and be like 'Yo what's up so and so... How you livin'? ... I heard that drop you had on Snapchat the other day and that sh!t was flame.... I'm trynna do more stuff like that in my compositions. You write often?' ... Indicates them talking.
 

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I'm not saying don't cold approach. I'm saying it doesn't have to be the main thing. Just as you said earlier in the journal. I think it's fine to cold approach. I still do it. But the benefits of having a large social circle are far more than anything cold approaching can do for you. Sure, I've made friends and prospects via cold approaching and will continue to do so. But I think building a large social circle and just wanting to be friendly with people is the main way to go.

I'm still unsure about your question about the guy with the beats on Snapchat. I don't have Snapchat but I would just wait until I saw em in person and be like 'Yo what's up so and so... How you livin'? ... I heard that drop you had on Snapchat the other day and that sh!t was flame.... I'm trynna do more stuff like that in my compositions. You write often?' ... Indicates them talking.
Probably best just to master both through lots and lots of practice. I've gotten better at both my Cold Approach and Social Skills through the work outlined in this journal but I can take it even further.

By the way... turns out this chick I was talking to on Tinder had a whole boyfriend lol. This is exactly why I don't want to get into a relationship until I'm a seasoned master at dating.
 

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Extremely Short Update: Game/Purpose

Been on my purpose lately.

I've achieved my dream of recording a professional studio album. I just finished it yesterday with my band.

I'm signed up for all my summer classes. 12 credit hours. Ready to make these As. Syllabi have been mailed out.

I've been doing Game too this week. One Red Pilled thing I had to learn again: NEVER settle for a woman's Snapchat or Facebook. Always get her number because if you just use her social media you're nothing but a fan to her.

I'll type up a more detailed report once I get home.
 
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If people needed to approach 100 women to get laid the human race would die out
 

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If people needed to approach 100 women to get laid the human race would die out
My logic was even with all the flaking, games, and BS that if I were to do that many approaches eventually one would bite. Good practice too
 

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Post Studio

As I had mentioned, I recorded a professional studio album with my band last week. I feel very accomplished, I consider this an absolute win. I'll be on Apple Music and Spotify. It was always my dream to be on an album like this.

Things I Learned:
1.) I can hang out with my band if nothing else next semester
2.) I need to practice more, and with a tuner
3.) There's lots of stuff about music that I still don't know. Music is one of the few things in this world that will make me happy
4.) When in social drinking situations, drink one drink. And then stop. Unfortunately I ended up undoing some weight loss progress over my vacation. Anything more drinking will make you fat: and a good DJ isn't fat.

That's all for now. I just wanted to list what I learned. I'll see you all in a few weeks when I get a new Lay/accomplish more stuff in my life.
 

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5/31/19: Summer School

I just confirmed my summer school schedule and I'll be off to school tomorrow. Class begins on Monday.

Due to the way the schedule is spaced out across both summer terms I decided to take all CSC Classes. I'm honestly excited. I'm supposed to take an HB7 out for drinks once I get back too. Haven't been texting her because that's validation.

I really have no idea what I'm gonna do about my social life but I guarantee that I will figure it out and make it work for me. Hell I'll write out a plan on paper. I will succeed.

As a side note I hit 2 plates on my bench press again. I'm happy about that. I've been putting it all into my purpose lately.

See you all once I make these As. I'm taking:

CSC 4903: Video Game Design
CSC 2310: Object Oriented Programming
CSC 2410: Design of Algorithms
CSC 2710: Discrete Math II
 
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Can you give us an update ?
Hey bro, I have my next update planned for August 24th. I have a couple loose ends that I need to tie up before then. But honestly, I'm doing infinitely better and I kinda wanna come back to this with a "what I accomplished over summer" type post. I didn't mean to rant complain or make this journal so long, but I was going through a really rough spot last Spring tbh
 

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Hey bro, I have my next update planned for August 24th. I have a couple loose ends that I need to tie up before then. But honestly, I'm doing infinitely better and I kinda wanna come back to this with a "what I accomplished over summer" type post. I didn't mean to rant complain or make this journal so long, but I was going through a really rough spot last Spring tbh
Nah don't worry about it.

Glad that you are doing better now. Keep it up.

I think one of the actual good things here is that good people are taking their time to help you out so keep it casual. Enjoy your summer dude!
 

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Nah don't worry about it.

Glad that you are doing better now. Keep it up.

I think one of the actual good things here is that good people are taking their time to help you out so keep it casual. Enjoy your summer dude!
Yeah man for sure. I love this site.

I'll give you a very quick update on my academics though. I made an A in Video Game Design and a B in Design of Algorithms. I also landed a Computer Science Internship. I'm currently working there.

I just still have a few more things to do before I'm happy with how this summer turned out.
 
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