Master Don Juan
- Oct 1, 2018
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My first instinct is to say don't overthink it.That's a great positive mindset. I kinda have to think about it in the context of an approach cause that's just who I am, but I can think about it socially as well.
To relax today, I worked on my goal of being a composer. This new synth I picked up is a beast. Makes me want to write a new retro type beat. Really inspiring sounds.
Anecdotally, I saw a woman with the PHATTEST ass at the gym today. I couldn't really approach because she was wearing headphones(you're not supposed to approach those types of girls according to Dr. Nerdlove) but man. I wanna be a great PUA who can do an approach literally anywhere, not just at bars. This'll be a great goal for me this summer and next semester.
Hey @GrowingPains if I'm working on making a male friend and they post sh*t on their Snapchat story that we both like(music stuff mostly) is it ok to comment on stuff like that multiple times? Or will it just look like I'm brown nosing? I've never really actively thought about this lol.
But what are you talking about specifically? What are they paying that you wanna talk about?
I think what @shouldbefun suggested is a great mindset to have. I have thought about this briefly recently. I don't like the mindset I'm in. Every girl I see is 'should I approach/what do I say/some other calculating bs'. Im not sure if these thoughts can be entirely eliminated. But an ideal way of thinking would be 'that person seems interesting, lemme see if they're friendly.' rather than evaluating every person all the time and instantly trying to get in a girl's pants from the get go. I feel so thirsty with the latter mindset. And unnatural, might I add.
I would prefer to go somewhere and just be genuinely interested in interacting with anyone there. Regardless of sex. I think this would lead to a large social circle at the least and a large social circle does the work for you. Most of it anyways. And if you can approach a girl with indifference and wanting to get to know her... That's all there is to an approach. This is something that could be learned from the BigDave threads. I see hot girls with random ass dudes all the time on campus. Do you think they cold approached? Fvck no. Of course if you want to be intimate with the girl then you need to eventually (3 mins into the convo or 3 convos later, whatever) treat her differently than you would a friend. But to me this seems to be the appropriate way to create abundance with regard to friends and women with the same approach.
Rambled a lot but I'm just trynna say that if I could just genuinely want to get to know people, other things will fall in place. Making friends. Connections. Women to date. Opportunities will present themselves by creating such a network.