http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VXXXX9iVPI - Thought this was interesting. Can't say I agree with all of her points, but on the whole, its not bad. Thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Let me sum it up for you:
She's saying looks matter to girls and that they want to date their equals or better looks wise. She's also saying guys shouldn't just pay attention to the looks of girls. She's making it sound like good-looking girls are terrible. Why? She wants a bigger population of males to herself. She also mentions that she'd breakup with a guy if he was unemployed for a year. This is further proof that a woman's love is conditional.
Would you breakup with your girlfriend if she was unemployed for a year? Nope.
She's saying looks matter to girls and that they want to date their equals or better looks wise. She's also saying guys shouldn't just pay attention to the looks of girls. She's making it sound like good-looking girls are terrible. Why? She wants a bigger population of males to herself. She also mentions that she'd breakup with a guy if he was unemployed for a year. This is further proof that a woman's love is conditional.
Would you breakup with your girlfriend if she was unemployed for a year? Nope.
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Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
HyperAnalyze
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Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.JohnChops said:
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4north1side2 said:
Sometimes it's hard finding a job in today's economy. It took a couple people I know 8-12 months to find jobs and finally get hired. They were also constantly always looking for jobs.
Btw, If I were married I'd prefer a stay at home wife to take care of the kids, clean, and cook. If she's not gonna do that, don't see the point to marriage.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
VladPatton
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2:52...that's all I could take of that rambling twit.
I wonder how many guys she rejected during her high school days while she was growing up as a ''popular girl''. Jenna Marbles. Seriously?
I wonder how many guys she rejected during her high school days while she was growing up as a ''popular girl''. Jenna Marbles. Seriously?
Groverz
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This is usually true, for tons of reasons including:JohnChops said:
(1) They have no experience dating women
(2) They often don't know what they want
(3) Even when they WANT something, giving it to them often LOWERS your chances (because what they want is to find A GUY, not to find you).
(3) is a key point many men do not realize. Women want you to take it slow and do all this other really bad dating strategy not to increase your chances with her but to delay her having to make a choice so she can explore other options etc.
As for why nice guys do not necessarily finish last.. it's quite simple really, it isn't that nice guys finish last, it is that guys who are not SEXUAL finish last. You have to be sexual.
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^^^Read this again!!!^^^
Women give the worst advice on dating women.
You don't ask Pokémon how to catch them, you ask someone who's great at catching them.
Women give the worst advice on dating women.
You don't ask Pokémon how to catch them, you ask someone who's great at catching them.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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applegoo said:
hell yeah i would. and i have. unemployed girl means only trouble. when girls have too much time on their hands, they will be bored. and girls chase away boredom with some good old drama. i don't need no drama.
i'd go as far as to say i wouldn't even consider LTR'ing a girl without job (except if she is a student)
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CrimsonPanther said:
My ex was less drama when she was unemployed lol. It's all relative.
Great thread! Though I have to say to HyperAnalyze asking a burgler how to secure your home probably would be a good idea, he'd know the trade secrets you should look at. Like how Hannibal helped the cop in Silence of the Lambs. Bad example but I know what you mean 
loved the Pokemon quote haha
JoshSway has it down to a tee, basically women don't understand themselves, never mind their gender as a whole. I avoided telling a girl I was trying to f*ck that I was f*cking someone else as I was putting myself in her position. If I found out a girl was flirting with me and she was f*cking another guy I'd drop her like a stone (usually), whereas when she did find out she couldn't get my c*ck inside her soon enough.
Strange creatures.
loved the Pokemon quote haha JoshSway has it down to a tee, basically women don't understand themselves, never mind their gender as a whole. I avoided telling a girl I was trying to f*ck that I was f*cking someone else as I was putting myself in her position. If I found out a girl was flirting with me and she was f*cking another guy I'd drop her like a stone (usually), whereas when she did find out she couldn't get my c*ck inside her soon enough.
Strange creatures.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She's right.
If you're not getting laid AT ALL, it's NOT because you're too nice. It's may actually be because, among other possible things, you're an azzhole.
But, in addition, it's probably because you're too poor, too boring, too needy, or too unattractive. In addition to being an azzhole.
If you're not getting laid AT ALL, it's NOT because you're too nice. It's may actually be because, among other possible things, you're an azzhole.
But, in addition, it's probably because you're too poor, too boring, too needy, or too unattractive. In addition to being an azzhole.