http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VXXXX9iVPI - Thought this was interesting. Can't say I agree with all of her points, but on the whole, its not bad. Thoughts?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
4north1side2 said:You are the biggest sucka in the world if you stay with an able unemployed bum beyond 3 months. That's ****ing ridiculous and the reason why a lot of men who have stay at home wives get played.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:crackup:HyperAnalyze said:Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.
This is usually true, for tons of reasons including:JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
applegoo said:Would you breakup with your girlfriend if she was unemployed for a year? Nope.
CrimsonPanther said:hell yeah i would. and i have. unemployed girl means only trouble. when girls have too much time on their hands, they will be bored. and girls chase away boredom with some good old drama. i don't need no drama.
i'd go as far as to say i wouldn't even consider LTR'ing a girl without job (except if she is a student)
That's the truth right there.Espi said:When a guy is unemployed, he is a "lazy bum."
When a woman is unemployed, she's being "discriminated against."
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.