http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VXXXX9iVPI - Thought this was interesting. Can't say I agree with all of her points, but on the whole, its not bad. Thoughts?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
4north1side2 said:You are the biggest sucka in the world if you stay with an able unemployed bum beyond 3 months. That's ****ing ridiculous and the reason why a lot of men who have stay at home wives get played.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
:crackup:HyperAnalyze said:Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.
This is usually true, for tons of reasons including:JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
applegoo said:Would you breakup with your girlfriend if she was unemployed for a year? Nope.
CrimsonPanther said:hell yeah i would. and i have. unemployed girl means only trouble. when girls have too much time on their hands, they will be bored. and girls chase away boredom with some good old drama. i don't need no drama.
i'd go as far as to say i wouldn't even consider LTR'ing a girl without job (except if she is a student)
That's the truth right there.Espi said:When a guy is unemployed, he is a "lazy bum."
When a woman is unemployed, she's being "discriminated against."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.