http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VXXXX9iVPI - Thought this was interesting. Can't say I agree with all of her points, but on the whole, its not bad. Thoughts?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
4north1side2 said:You are the biggest sucka in the world if you stay with an able unemployed bum beyond 3 months. That's ****ing ridiculous and the reason why a lot of men who have stay at home wives get played.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
:crackup:HyperAnalyze said:Getting advice from a woman is like getting advice from a burglar on how to keep your home secure.
This is usually true, for tons of reasons including:JohnChops said:Know this, women give the worst advice about women. That is all.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
applegoo said:Would you breakup with your girlfriend if she was unemployed for a year? Nope.
CrimsonPanther said:hell yeah i would. and i have. unemployed girl means only trouble. when girls have too much time on their hands, they will be bored. and girls chase away boredom with some good old drama. i don't need no drama.
i'd go as far as to say i wouldn't even consider LTR'ing a girl without job (except if she is a student)
That's the truth right there.Espi said:When a guy is unemployed, he is a "lazy bum."
When a woman is unemployed, she's being "discriminated against."
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.