There is this girl that I haven't seen for about yrs and I recently ran into her again. It was a quick Hi how are and thats it. The thing is that yrs ago I had asked her out she said yes but if few days she said something had come up and she had to reschedule I was fine with that. Now my question is now that ran into her again I want to ask her out again but I don't know what to say. Can you give me you honest opinion on what I should say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Years passed by??????????????????? This delay is a little scary - why didn't you folow up years ago???
Maybe she is married now or has a man - do you have a phone number??? Explain!!!
Maybe she is married now or has a man - do you have a phone number??? Explain!!!
Well I left the company that we worked for 2 weeks prior to her leaving. The reason for not following up was I didn't know if she was seeing any one at the time and I figured that she need some space and didn't what her to fell pressured. From what I have been told she not married or seeing any one. I don't have her phone number but I do have her e-mail address.
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If she VOLUNTARILY gave you the e-mail address then say a polite "Hello"!!! And measure her response in return and gauge for interest!!
I'll try that. The only problem that I have is know what to say I'll start to type and stop and read what I have so far and it make no sense to me so I start all over by the time I get ready to send it makes no sense what so ever. I get the felling that I just put my foot in my mouth. I know its an easy thing to do but I get nervous and mess up.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'll try that. The only problem that I have is know what to say I'll start to type and stop and read what I have so far and it make no sense to me so I start all over by the time I get ready to send it makes no sense what so ever. I get the felling that I just put my foot in my mouth. I know its an easy thing to do but I get nervous and mess up.
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Ok kid, what do you have so far?? I'll help you with the letter!
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I agree about the c&f email.
All that matters is how she feels about you now; forget the past.
All that matters is how she feels about you now; forget the past.