logicallefty
Moderator
I also hate people who bust on new members. People forget that they were there once. Most of us were. If new members stop coming the lights go out for all of us.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Well said.
On another note, I wonder how the new mods will handle the hazing during the ritual initiation ceremony.
BeExcellent
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Two cents from the old lady:
I think @zekko is a thoughtful & balanced contributor here...as is @Mike32ct . I also think @Glassguy is a solid man to mentor others, both in a man’s personal affairs as well as from a business/life perspective.
@TyTe`EyEz I know less well but he doesn’t seem prone to bickering and divicivness.
And I like @Roober too if he’d consider it. He’s balanced and has put the advice here to good application in his own life. He’d make a good Mod, if it fits in his life.
As for the dominant personality types I’d think of @ShePays but I don’t know if he’s been here the necessary year. I know he’s said no already but his presence here is a positive strong influence.
A tip of the hat to you @Atom Smasher as you step aside. Your wisdom has benefitted me personally and your kindness also. I wish you well and hope you will maintain a presence here.
It’s a good group and in my mind what a forum should aspire to. Helping others, improving self, and providing a male space where things can be aired for the benefit of many.
Cheers Gents
I think @zekko is a thoughtful & balanced contributor here...as is @Mike32ct . I also think @Glassguy is a solid man to mentor others, both in a man’s personal affairs as well as from a business/life perspective.
@TyTe`EyEz I know less well but he doesn’t seem prone to bickering and divicivness.
And I like @Roober too if he’d consider it. He’s balanced and has put the advice here to good application in his own life. He’d make a good Mod, if it fits in his life.
As for the dominant personality types I’d think of @ShePays but I don’t know if he’s been here the necessary year. I know he’s said no already but his presence here is a positive strong influence.
A tip of the hat to you @Atom Smasher as you step aside. Your wisdom has benefitted me personally and your kindness also. I wish you well and hope you will maintain a presence here.
It’s a good group and in my mind what a forum should aspire to. Helping others, improving self, and providing a male space where things can be aired for the benefit of many.
Cheers Gents
I strongly believe that differing opinions within ur mod team provides an IMPORTANT balance.I'm actually around A LOT MORE than people may realize. I just spend like 95% of my time in the background....usually replying to private messages. I probably have more PM posts than regular ones,like 3 times as many.
Another thing is,I don't like to OVER-moderate. I don't believe in jumping on members for every little infraction.
I like to let people talk,have free expression.....share different points of view,agree or disagree,and challenge each other. It's only if it gets to name-calling,insults,and personal attacks that I'd prefer to step in.
Good luck to those of you who decide to throw your hats in the ring to be a moderator. And to whoever is selected,I can't wait til the first time you log in here after not having been here for a day or two,only to see random members calling you "stupid","unfair",or accusing you of being on a power trip because "so and so" got banned....when you YOURSELF just found out they got banned cause you hadn't been here all day.
But hey.....it comes with the territory.
Hence the reasoning I suggest 1 more intellectual to be included.
Too many Doers/dominants or even too many Expressives would skew the balance and tilt the forum in a certain path.
As for what logicallefty said, he believes Atom plays the motivator role, which would be consistent with how a properly run organisation/team is managed but it also needs people like you, an expressive who brings emphaty, ur natural strengths.
The doers are basically black and white, right or wrong and has lesser middle ground, their natural tendencies are more towards what they have found to be the easiest, fastest, most efficient way of doing things.
As for the intellectuals, they're the thinkers, although numbers is their forte, but methinks, they provide an important balance even when they're not placed within an environment they would not excel for example a forum that deals with human emotions.
HOWEVER, as for you, I do notice you around, have read ur comments, and because of that I'm able to understand the way you think-hence the profile.
I am frankly speaking, quite happy with the way things are being handled by ur mod team.
Keep up the good work guys.
Certainly a thankless job.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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user43770
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I also suggest eyebrolling, he proved himself to be open to dialogues and interested in alternative visions while respectinging other people points of view without turning emotional when his view was challenged....I believe his biggest strenght is logic and control over feelings.
If we had a history and politics area he would be the most balanced and open minded guy to moderate it.
If we had a history and politics area he would be the most balanced and open minded guy to moderate it.
logicallefty
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I really do hope that everyone thinking about applying does so and isn't afraid of the process, afraid they will never get picked, or afraid it will take too much time out of your schedule. I did it because SoSuave helped me so much between 2006 and 2015(or 16) that I wanted to give something back. I never thought I would be a Mod this long but it's really something I enjoy.
backseatjuan
Banned
I think tee tee ice is alan.
backseatjuan
Banned
I hope you long ears pick me, I won't ban anyone. But somebody gonna pay, I bet she gonna pay.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
logicallefty
Moderator
haha Did you apply? You won't get ban power right away anyway so you won't have to worry about being trigger happy. Only 3 mods have ban powers.
and thank you logical, I like your decisionmaking ability and easygoingness
Mike32ct
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I’m very flattered and grateful that some have suggested me. But I have no plans to apply. I have a lot of respect for the mod team, but am not interested in joining at this time.
Who Dares Win
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So try to imagine what kind of entertainment a history and politics area moderated from him could provide us...even better than eurosport and netflix combined.
A good sense of humor can definitely transcend beta…Goddamit, all these years spent on Sosuave and I'm still just a beta.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
nicksaiz65
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I think you'd be a great moderator bro. You're very logical and level headed. I think you make great points.Goddamit, all these years spent on Sosuave and I'm still just a beta.
Georgepithyou
Banned
I hope whoever does get the job, upholds the same standards as the other mods.
This is one of the last pure game forums left.
This is one of the last pure game forums left.
I wouldn't doubt it...
Incel boards are flagged for "hate speech"
MGTOW boards are flagged for "hate speech"
PUA boards are flagged for "hate speech"
Bodybuilding boards are flagged for "hate speech"
Motorcycle boards are flagged for "hate speech"
Car boards are flagged for "hate speech"
Uber and Lyft boards are flagged for "hate speech"
On and on and on and on..... "hate speech" is a blanket term for anything the left feels is a threat to their political platform.... so remind me again who the real authoritarians are.....
The left is quite literally terrified of the 1st Amendment because they know their platform is so flawed, illogical and idiotic that people can easily pick it apart simply by having a conversation about it....
...that's why they are so desperate to censor all forms of speech....
...that's why they are so desperate to censor all forms of speech....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.