"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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People like myself and other athletes with a lot of lower body musculature will always be considered fat according to BMI. Its a garbage method of assessing health. Use bodyfat percentage.
Agreed. I'm deezed. I could always get learner. More shred six pack and vascularity. According to bmi i am obese lol.

As i get older, I am shifting over to less bodybuilding and more functional movements. Your heart has to pump blood. More mass is a hindrance of function.

My biggest reality check is in optimization of sleep game. I use to pull, party, go buck wild, and I wreck my sleep game. I wont anymore. I have been more productive, no brain fog, more pulling, pickup, increase in resources, breakthroughs in biz and the gym.

Read why we sleep by Mathew Walker is brilliant. At least check JRE 1109.its a life changer.

I bet there's more money to be made, better gains in the gym, and more pulling if lads just handled their sleeping routine.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Agreed. I'm deezed. I could always get learner. More shred six pack and vascularity. According to bmi i am obese lol.

As i get older, I am shifting over to less bodybuilding and more functional movements. Your heart has to pump blood. More mass is a hindrance of function.

My biggest reality check is in optimization of sleep game. I use to pull, party, go buck wild, and I wreck my sleep game. I wont anymore. I have been more productive, no brain fog, more pulling, pickup, increase in resources, breakthroughs in biz and the gym.

Read why we sleep by Mathew Walker is brilliant. At least check JRE 1109.its a life changer.

I bet there's more money to be made, better gains in the gym, and more pulling if lads just handled their sleeping routine.
I sleep only about 5 to 6 hours max. I stay up late and feel tired and it also causes dark circles and makes me look tired when I get less sleep. I think lack of sleep makes you look less attractive as well when you look worn out.
 

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Being 5'7 is no excuse. My friend's dad is 48 yrs old, looks pregnant, is 5'5 and gets more women than he knows what to do with.

It's all about your confidence and personality.

Fly to my city for the weekend. My mentor will teach you game in a weekend for a couple of hundred bucks. He's way better than any of these YouTube Pua's.
 

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The BMI is 29.9, it's overweight, not muscular. Who works at a hospital and is an EMT again? You or me?
Not always the case. During a few fights during his career, Evander Holyfield qualified as “OBESE,” based on BMI alone, yet was as low as 3-4% body fat.

OP, go find out what your different statistics are (body fat%, BMI, etc.), then get on a fitness program, which includes weight training, and proper nutrition intake, based on your goal. Who‘s worked as a fitness professional, and has worked in the fitness industry for 20+ years, with hundreds of clients with different goas and background, me or the majority of keyboard jockey “experts” in here?

seems you have the means. Get some expert help with the different areas you need to address towards improving your presentation. Hire a fitness professional/trainer, etc. You’ll be happy you did.
 
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Not always the case. During a few fights during his career, Evander Holyfield qualified as “OBESE,” based on BMI alone, yet was as low as 3-4% body fat.

OP, go find out what your different statistics are (body fat%, BMI, etc.), then get on a fitness program, which includes weight training, and proper nutrition intake, based on your goal. Who‘s worked as a fitness professional, and has worked in the fitness industry for 20+ years, with hundreds of clients with different goas and background, me or the majority of keyboard jockey “experts” in here?

seems you have the means. Get some expert help with the different areas you need to address towards improving your presentation. Hire a fitness professional/trainer, etc. You’ll be happy you did.
Did you see my post in the health forum about home gyms? What do you think of those home gyms in the 300 to 500 dollar range?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did you see my post in the health forum about home gyms? What do you think of those home gyms in the 300 to 500 dollar range?
I will look at your post. To give you a quick answer, you can definitely find good buys on fitness equipment at almost every price point. I recommend finding a used unit in a place like craigslist or the like. just like with musical instrument, tons of people buy equipment, hoping to get a fitness journey going, yet find themselves not following up. This is where you come in. As long as you know what you are looking for, you can find great buys on equipment that might be let’s say $1000, for a few hundred bones. Often the stuff is in like new condiction, just opened. Often they’ll throw in extra pieces of exercise equipment/items, as long as you get it out of their face. Do a search on your local market.
 

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I will look at your post. To give you a quick answer, you can definitely find good buys on fitness equipment at almost every price point. I recommend finding a used unit in a place like craigslist or the like. just like with musical instrument, tons of people buy equipment, hoping to get a fitness journey going, yet find themselves not following up. This is where you come in. As long as you know what you are looking for, you can find great buys on equipment that might be let’s say $1000, for a few hundred bones. Often the stuff is in like new condiction, just opened. Often they’ll throw in extra pieces of exercise equipment/items, as long as you get it out of their face. Do a search on your local market.
Also, depending on dating site is it a good idea to post shirtless pics showing off your abs and arms? The higher end sites like match and eharmony women say they hate that on their profiles but would it work on the free trashy dating sites like pof okcupid and tinder?
 

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Also, depending on dating site is it a good idea to post shirtless pics showing off your abs and arms? The higher end sites like match and eharmony women say they hate that on their profiles but would it work on the free trashy dating sites like pof okcupid and tinder?
I would first worry about building a body worthy of being shown off. ‍♂
 

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I would first worry about building a body worthy of being shown off. ‍♂
I don't mean hulked up but you know the tight abs shirtless pics, and baggy pants showing like you see a lot of guys do that's a bit ghettoish looking.
 

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I don't mean hulked up but you know the tight abs shirtless pics, and baggy pants showing like you see a lot of guys do that's a bit ghettoish looking.
LoL!

know you know why even girls deem those sites trashy. Because of chaps that do that kind of stuff. :rofl:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LoL!

know you know why even girls deem those sites trashy. Because of chaps that do that kind of stuff. :rofl:
But even on the better sites liek Match the same women post gym pics showing off, yet bash guys for the same thing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Just get a gym membership. Home gyms are still limited no matter what you get.
My sub divison has a small gym in the club house. Mostly cardio equipment a couple weight machines but not like a regular gym. I have a treadmill and dumbells so I figured get the home gym. That way I don't have to leave the house and pay 50 bucks a month membership. The Y was 54 a month and had crappy hours since it was mostly old people who used it. The other gym is 24 hours near me but 50 a month.
 

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My sub divison has a small gym in the club house. Mostly cardio equipment a couple weight machines but not like a regular gym. I have a treadmill and dumbells so I figured get the home gym. That way I don't have to leave the house and pay 50 bucks a month membership. The Y was 54 a month and had crappy hours since it was mostly old people who used it. The other gym is 24 hours near me but 50 a month.
Damn bro. You live in a crappy place I guess. Gym memberships here can be found for 10 bucks a month.
 

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Damn bro. You live in a crappy place I guess. Gym memberships here can be found for 10 bucks a month.
The Y was 54 bucks a month. VERY clean place, small though but the hours were literally like 6am to 9pm Monday thru Fri and like 8 to 5 Sat and 9 to 4 sunday. Off season hours were even worse closing 8 at night. The average age in my town is 66 years old and everything closes by 8 or 9. Restaurants close at 8 on Sundays here.

A newer 24 hour gym opened 2 years ago about 3 miles from me. Not huge, a lot of cardio but nice but it's like $50 a month. That's 600 a year plus they usually have once a year "fees" probably $50 to $100 like many gyms do. I'm better off just buying my own weight equipment. If my treadmill breaks I can just go to the clubhouse for cardio.

In St. Louis my gym was 24 hours and only $15 a month.
 

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Not always the case. During a few fights during his career, Evander Holyfield qualified as “OBESE,” based on BMI alone, yet was as low as 3-4% body fat.

OP, go find out what your different statistics are (body fat%, BMI, etc.), then get on a fitness program, which includes weight training, and proper nutrition intake, based on your goal. Who‘s worked as a fitness professional, and has worked in the fitness industry for 20+ years, with hundreds of clients with different goas and background, me or the majority of keyboard jockey “experts” in here?

seems you have the means. Get some expert help with the different areas you need to address towards improving your presentation. Hire a fitness professional/trainer, etc. You’ll be happy you did.
Immaterial for the OP.
 

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Immaterial for the OP.
Right. Because someone who is asking for help with changing his dating life, only need concern himself with his BMI, not every other aspect dating entails. Just BMI, brah.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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