So yea I was going out with this chick for about 2 months, we were both seeing other people. I started to get oneits over her, and i asked her to be my gf. she said shes not ready for it. so I nexted her. I cut contact with her compleatly. She txts me on thanks giving wishing me and my family a good one... i dint txt her back... so sould i start txting her again? or compleatly cut it off for a couple more months and then take her out again?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Need advice, call or not to call. NEXTED oneits texting me.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Uh, text her back with a "thank you, same to you and yours" If she wants to do more with you she will call or text. If not she was just being polite.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Have you really 'nexted' this one?
how do you mean?Francisco d'Anconia said:Have you really 'nexted' this one?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're planning taking her out again in a couple of months. How have you nexted her?cyp6 said:how do you mean?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
When you NEXT a girl, your suppose to cut her off COMPLETELY!! Going back after you pretty much were rejected, shows her that your her little rag doll, that she's free to toss around. You need more options bro, because this girl already knows your game.
PIMP
PIMP
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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GOD I hate oneitis *remembers horrible past* *SHUDDER*
yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?cyp6 said:yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
I dont know.. just keep doing what im doing... I am good at approching and number closing... also I can Fclose about 1/3 of the time... but the problem is i'v been doing that for aslong as i remember what i really want is a gf that shares the same passions in life. I want to become a cardiologist, i want some one whos gonna be there for me when i need to talk to. I have close frineds but its not the same.. anyways.... I guess im just going to see what happens... hopefully some of the plates im spining will be turn out to be girls who share my attitude about things..Francisco d'Anconia said:Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.