So yea I was going out with this chick for about 2 months, we were both seeing other people. I started to get oneits over her, and i asked her to be my gf. she said shes not ready for it. so I nexted her. I cut contact with her compleatly. She txts me on thanks giving wishing me and my family a good one... i dint txt her back... so sould i start txting her again? or compleatly cut it off for a couple more months and then take her out again?
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Need advice, call or not to call. NEXTED oneits texting me.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Uh, text her back with a "thank you, same to you and yours" If she wants to do more with you she will call or text. If not she was just being polite.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Have you really 'nexted' this one?
how do you mean?Francisco d'Anconia said:Have you really 'nexted' this one?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're planning taking her out again in a couple of months. How have you nexted her?cyp6 said:how do you mean?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
When you NEXT a girl, your suppose to cut her off COMPLETELY!! Going back after you pretty much were rejected, shows her that your her little rag doll, that she's free to toss around. You need more options bro, because this girl already knows your game.
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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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GOD I hate oneitis *remembers horrible past* *SHUDDER*
yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?cyp6 said:yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
I dont know.. just keep doing what im doing... I am good at approching and number closing... also I can Fclose about 1/3 of the time... but the problem is i'v been doing that for aslong as i remember what i really want is a gf that shares the same passions in life. I want to become a cardiologist, i want some one whos gonna be there for me when i need to talk to. I have close frineds but its not the same.. anyways.... I guess im just going to see what happens... hopefully some of the plates im spining will be turn out to be girls who share my attitude about things..Francisco d'Anconia said:Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.