So yea I was going out with this chick for about 2 months, we were both seeing other people. I started to get oneits over her, and i asked her to be my gf. she said shes not ready for it. so I nexted her. I cut contact with her compleatly. She txts me on thanks giving wishing me and my family a good one... i dint txt her back... so sould i start txting her again? or compleatly cut it off for a couple more months and then take her out again?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Need advice, call or not to call. NEXTED oneits texting me.
- Thread starter cyp6
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Uh, text her back with a "thank you, same to you and yours" If she wants to do more with you she will call or text. If not she was just being polite.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Have you really 'nexted' this one?
how do you mean?Francisco d'Anconia said:Have you really 'nexted' this one?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're planning taking her out again in a couple of months. How have you nexted her?cyp6 said:how do you mean?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
When you NEXT a girl, your suppose to cut her off COMPLETELY!! Going back after you pretty much were rejected, shows her that your her little rag doll, that she's free to toss around. You need more options bro, because this girl already knows your game.
PIMP
PIMP
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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GOD I hate oneitis *remembers horrible past* *SHUDDER*
yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?cyp6 said:yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
I dont know.. just keep doing what im doing... I am good at approching and number closing... also I can Fclose about 1/3 of the time... but the problem is i'v been doing that for aslong as i remember what i really want is a gf that shares the same passions in life. I want to become a cardiologist, i want some one whos gonna be there for me when i need to talk to. I have close frineds but its not the same.. anyways.... I guess im just going to see what happens... hopefully some of the plates im spining will be turn out to be girls who share my attitude about things..Francisco d'Anconia said:Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.