So yea I was going out with this chick for about 2 months, we were both seeing other people. I started to get oneits over her, and i asked her to be my gf. she said shes not ready for it. so I nexted her. I cut contact with her compleatly. She txts me on thanks giving wishing me and my family a good one... i dint txt her back... so sould i start txting her again? or compleatly cut it off for a couple more months and then take her out again?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Need advice, call or not to call. NEXTED oneits texting me.
- Thread starter cyp6
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Uh, text her back with a "thank you, same to you and yours" If she wants to do more with you she will call or text. If not she was just being polite.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Have you really 'nexted' this one?
how do you mean?Francisco d'Anconia said:Have you really 'nexted' this one?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're planning taking her out again in a couple of months. How have you nexted her?cyp6 said:how do you mean?
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
When you NEXT a girl, your suppose to cut her off COMPLETELY!! Going back after you pretty much were rejected, shows her that your her little rag doll, that she's free to toss around. You need more options bro, because this girl already knows your game.
PIMP
PIMP
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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GOD I hate oneitis *remembers horrible past* *SHUDDER*
yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?cyp6 said:yea man im not gonna lie.. it was really painful.. but now i realize im better than her in many of the things i my self value... eduation wise, future goals, family values, inteligence, looks, social status ect.... My judgement was clouded by my emotions... deep down i think i was just lonely and wanted to share some thing of my self with some else.. because im getting to a point where things are falling in to place and my future looks promising... im 20 years old.. and I'm finaly starting see who I am, and what I want to do in life... man it really helps to actully put what im feeling down into words it kind of solidifies what thoughs...
I dont know.. just keep doing what im doing... I am good at approching and number closing... also I can Fclose about 1/3 of the time... but the problem is i'v been doing that for aslong as i remember what i really want is a gf that shares the same passions in life. I want to become a cardiologist, i want some one whos gonna be there for me when i need to talk to. I have close frineds but its not the same.. anyways.... I guess im just going to see what happens... hopefully some of the plates im spining will be turn out to be girls who share my attitude about things..Francisco d'Anconia said:Ok... So... Whaddaya gonna do about it?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.