You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
blackwolf said:i might be boring to many people. but i like my life the way it is. she doesn't live in singapore btw, she lives in texas.
Why are you still asking this? We're on page two of this and everybody has said the same thing. You're not 'talking' to her. You're not her friend. You're not her boyfriend. Let's put this is terms you're comfortable with: this is a game. You're losing. Badly.blackwolf said:heh.. she probably wont talk to me after that but i can't stand all this privacy !!! feels like shes lying to me but she says shes not!!
AM I OVER REACTING? IS A WOMAN ALLOWED TO BE THIS PRIVATE? I DONT KNOW HER AGE OR LAST NAME? SHE KEEPS FUKING HIDING HER WALL (SHES ONLY GOT 4 FRIENDS) - shes fuking weird but shes still a nice woman! grrr..
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
lol, Those aren't my people. I am going to see this festival they have and try to get some pics and video. Anyone who can climb a ladder of razor sharp daggers has my respect.Thundernuts said:Wow, SharinganUser just want to say your people know how to have a good time.
Yeah, he's hiding something for sure.if a woman won't show you pictures or she won't do webcam, thats a serious red flag man, he's hiding something and whats worse is you don't know what it is
That's exactly what I am saying. When you are young and have no responsibilities, you should be out having fun and experiencing life.And one more thing, you want to start doing something because you don't want ten years to go by and look back and say all you did in your prime years was play playstation.
He's still asking because he's trying to keep the thread going. This guy has gotten enough attention. And enough information to figure it out on his own.Noodles said:Why are you still asking this? We're on page two of this and everybody has said the same thing. You're not 'talking' to her. You're not her friend. You're not her boyfriend. Let's put this is terms you're comfortable with: this is a game. You're losing. Badly.