"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My take on "The paradigm for psychopathic and deviant personality"

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The paradigm for psychopathic and deviant personality. (apa.org)

In contrast to inadequate personality, this early lack of socialized ego development is overcome by a more individualized ego development which permits the individual to attain the goals of ego alien and socially proscribed motives by indirect means.
In other words, not conforming to the irrationality of the majority of the people is a 'problem.'

Using conformity as a standard for mental health is problematic for a number of reasons. The proper standard for mental health ought to be rationality.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The paradigm for psychopathic and deviant personality. (apa.org)



In other words, not conforming to the irrationality of the majority of the people is a 'problem.'

Using conformity as a standard for mental health is problematic for a number of reasons. The proper standard for mental health ought to be rationality.
There's a reason why the word "psychotic" has meanings that range from "seeing things and hearing voices" to merely having a difference of opinion with an established majority.
 

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There's a reason why the word "psychotic" has meanings that range from "seeing things and hearing voices" to merely having a difference of opinion with an established majority.
Usually it infers having a break from reality or making up your own version of things that actually never happened and then trying to convince others they actually did.
 
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