ExploringOne
Don Juan
We all tend to view the world through our own lens of reality.
To some she may well be a 10. To me she is a cute 7.
To some she may well be a 10. To me she is a cute 7.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
He makes a good point. This is afterall "Anything Else".SmokeX said:Just a random post in anything else, Felt like doing it.
Good point, I hadn't thought of that. It always pissed me off that I have to get a 2.0 GPA in school (which is like 65%), even though the cut-off mark is 50%.Mctwist4 said:I agree with you, but when schools use a system of grading where 70 - 79% is considered average, people are going to apply the same same system to the rating and grading of most other things. There's really nothing we can do about it.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Oh c'mon, dude. Gisele Bundchen (for example) is hotter than any Miss Universe I've seen.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Way to be offtopic. Lemme guess, you're gonna add me now :yawn:~attrACTION~ said:"This message is hidden because SmokeX is on your ignore list."
Ah, I love the ignore list! I don't know why I didn't start using it earlier. It makes visiting SoSuave much more pleasant.
I'm at a total of 22 so far:
6-heads lewis
All The Answers
CCKazi007
Deep Dish
Delta
Deus ex Pianoforte
DJF or John
Docs
Fat-Tony
God_of_getting_layed
Jayer
John_Galt
Luke Skywalker
Mctwist4
MissionX
Nighthawk
Phyzzle
Potbelly
Rebound Material
SmokeX
STR8UP
Wyldfire
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What was the point of this gay ass post? Are you that much of a drama queen that you need to derail somebody elses thread?~attrACTION~ said:"This message is hidden because SmokeX is on your ignore list."
Ah, I love the ignore list! I don't know why I didn't start using it earlier. It makes visiting SoSuave much more pleasant.
I'm at a total of 22 so far:
6-heads lewis
All The Answers
CCKazi007
Deep Dish
Delta
Deus ex Pianoforte
DJF or John
Docs
Fat-Tony
God_of_getting_layed
Jayer
John_Galt
Luke Skywalker
Mctwist4
MissionX
Nighthawk
Phyzzle
Potbelly
Rebound Material
SmokeX
STR8UP
Wyldfire
Slevin - Apparently so. hahaSlevin said:What was the point of this gay ass post? Are you that much of a drama queen that you need to derail somebody elses thread?
:yes:TheNewGuy said:Lemme guess, you're gonna add me now
No. In another thread, SmokeX claimed that he was a homosexual. I think it's somewhat disturbing having a GAY member on the SoSuave forum. Especially since this is not GaySuave.Slevin said:What was the point of this gay ass post? Are you that much of a drama queen that you need to derail somebody elses thread?
Ummmm......~attrACTION~ said:I have nothing against homosexuals
So you're a lying bigot, got it!I only add people who are blatantly GAY
Have fun burying your head in the sand, you worthless bigot!!Congratulations, you make 25.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
the funny thing is.... is that you just made his girl look worse than the pictures that he posted.Docs said:^
She's 18. I'll see if I can dig though my collections of pictures and show you a better one of my mate's girl.
Edit: http://24.226.38.2/_Cloak/Vanessa.jpg, FYI six months old
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.