She been texting me about the idea, and I'd do it. She'd prefer her, another girl and me over another guy but I'm not sure how to approach this :s. I asked her if she considered it cheating and she said no, but I'm not sure about it all.. thoughts?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My girlfriend wants a threesome...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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for what its worth, i couldnt remain exclusive with a girl who suggested threesomes or doing stuff with other people. for me to be in a relationship, i have to respect the girl in order to love her. she has to have class.
HOWEVER, if i was single or just casually dating and a very attractive girlfriend wanted me to have a fun night with her and her very attractive girlfriend...
i agree with deep dish in that you could probably forget about getting married to this chick.
but if youre just looking for fun... heck now that you know you cant truly settle with her anyways, you could just make the most of it.
-slb
HOWEVER, if i was single or just casually dating and a very attractive girlfriend wanted me to have a fun night with her and her very attractive girlfriend...
i agree with deep dish in that you could probably forget about getting married to this chick.
but if youre just looking for fun... heck now that you know you cant truly settle with her anyways, you could just make the most of it.
-slb
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Is this some fantasy or thought when she was high??
Sounds like a red flag to me. What? You aint givin it to her good enough so she needs someone else added to the equation. It seems that way...
I agree with Deep Dish and strong like bull. She is not girlfriend material.
Sounds like a red flag to me. What? You aint givin it to her good enough so she needs someone else added to the equation. It seems that way...
I agree with Deep Dish and strong like bull. She is not girlfriend material.
Bible_Belt
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What does a girlfriend have to do to please sosuave? It's impossible.
I would never consider a girl to be long-term material if she didn't want an occasional threesome.
I would never consider a girl to be long-term material if she didn't want an occasional threesome.
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Deep Dish said:
CosignedI.A.F.Y.B. said:
It's as good as over. Call her your gf to her face but in private start looking for another pouch to swing into. For the immediate meantime be open to whatever. Do her friend raw if she is clean. Maybe she is a better lay and you can start seeing her on the side. See this as an opportunity to take a few steps up as a man. If you play this right you can have them both fiending for you.
Good luck.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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can someone explain why this is a red flag?
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Because people would categorize her with a sex freak or nympho who can't control her urges, and they would automatically assume shes going to get her relief from other sources other than the OP... which is a rational assumption to watch out for a red flag.Crazy Asian said:
They say the relationship is doomed because she's already experimenting in other ways and involving other people. Or, perhaps your subconscious wouldn't be able to stand the thought of your girlfriend doing those things involving other people, and your mind will always be uneasy, AKA: insecure... then it leads to the path to neediness/clinginess.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ok, when WOULDN'T this be a red flag?
What if a DJ wanted a threesome? Would the same apply to him, or would that just make him suave and adventurous?
And how exactly do we know she's been experimenting with this behind the OPs back? This is all just mental masturbation. It could even be a test on the OPs part, or maybe she's an idiot and blurts out stupid things.
More info is needed.
What if a DJ wanted a threesome? Would the same apply to him, or would that just make him suave and adventurous?
And how exactly do we know she's been experimenting with this behind the OPs back? This is all just mental masturbation. It could even be a test on the OPs part, or maybe she's an idiot and blurts out stupid things.
More info is needed.
SmoothTalker
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I have to disagree with most of you and agree with Bible.
From what the OP said this is not such a bad situation. I think it's one of those fantasies most women have, along with rape (surprisingly). She just happens to be more honest and forward about it, which could be a bad thing meaning they have good open communication about sex.
I also think the fact that she wants it with another girl is a huge plus, where as if it was a second guy, I think that would be a major red flag.
From what the OP said this is not such a bad situation. I think it's one of those fantasies most women have, along with rape (surprisingly). She just happens to be more honest and forward about it, which could be a bad thing meaning they have good open communication about sex.
I also think the fact that she wants it with another girl is a huge plus, where as if it was a second guy, I think that would be a major red flag.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Bible Belt is a girl?Raikojo17 said:
theunflushables
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This all going to end in tears.
But, thats if it actually happend. Every girl I've ever dated has brought up the idea of a threesome. Only one ever carried through with it. And she got jealous when I stuck it to the other one. We were over the next day.
I think it is something girls feel that they have to bring up to make them look sexy and adventerous.
But, thats if it actually happend. Every girl I've ever dated has brought up the idea of a threesome. Only one ever carried through with it. And she got jealous when I stuck it to the other one. We were over the next day.
I think it is something girls feel that they have to bring up to make them look sexy and adventerous.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.