Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My GF is cheating with a married man. I'll be out sarging tonight!

Target_100

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She says shes with a friend but I know she is with another man. I'm very sure they just went for a few drinks and no ****ing but who the crap knows.

So tonight I'm gonna get the sargingwheel going early and don't procrastinate on approaching. Get my feet wet early and approaches will be a piece of cake from there.

I'll be back tomorrow with a field rapport.

-Target
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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On the flip side being suspicious about her going out "for a few drinks" with another guy isn't exactly confidence exuding behavior. You may be right that's she's grazing on the other side of the fence, and obviously you know your gf best, but it's possible you're just being jealous and controlling.

Heck, I have a coffee date WITH A MARRIED WOMAN next week, if her husband used this standard there would be an issue. /shrug

Assuming your assessment is correct however, good job man, you've got the right attitude. I agree with Captain.
 

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Everybody is waiting for an update on this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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UPDATE: I'm pretty pretty sure she didn't **** him today, but she said she was out with a female friend which I know isn't correct, so in my book that is cheating.

As for the field report: I made about 6-7 cold approaches. None worked out any good. Got one phone number from a young brown girl and texted some with a girl I knew briefly before that said we should meet for coffee some day. To recap: I didn't achieve ****. Strangely I feel good anyway. No frustration at all.

I have 74 more women to make love with and I know it will happen.
 

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I've fukced 26 girls. One was fat but with huge boobs. About 8-9 were premium. Two or three were 10's. The rest were average but not in any way ugly. Which in my book is what I can expect based on my own looks. (Average).

I didn't score tonight. What makes me happy is that my confidence is increasing every day, and that's what matters the most for me as of now.
 

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You accoplished more than you think. You approached, while you probably werent in the best mood either. You got a number and possibly a day 2. And most importantly, you took correct action immediately upon being disrespected by your chick. I'd say thats pretty good.
 

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I wanna thank you all for the positive feedback. I was expecting flame to be honest.

In my book phone numbers are not worth much. To take a girl home 1 on 1 that night is what does it for me. My F-close ratio from #closes on town is about 5%.

This is what I need to focus on:

1. Get a girl home to my place that night
2. Better follow-up of my #closes. I waste a lot by waiting too long
3. Seek other places to meet chicks. Like evening-school and such
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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whats wrong with you guys? its like you are racing to fuk as many women as possible. like you are gonna get a medal. what's the point? why do you need to fuk so many women?
 

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tony-montana said:
whats wrong with you guys? its like you are racing to fuk as many women as possible. like you are gonna get a medal. what's the point? why do you need to fuk so many women?

Human nature
 

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Fat girls need love too...but they gotta pay!

-Quagmire, Family Guy
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Target_100 said:
I've fukced 26 girls. One was fat but with huge boobs. About 8-9 were premium. Two or three were 10's. The rest were average but not in any way ugly. Which in my book is what I can expect based on my own looks. (Average).

I didn't score tonight. What makes me happy is that my confidence is increasing every day, and that's what matters the most for me as of now.
Huge boobs, or just sacks of fat?
 

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So are you going to dump your gf or keep her around just in case?

If you're confident enough with being able to get something better, I'd say 'dump her'
 

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Target, I wish I had your form right now.

I'm still recovering from the being cheated on thing; my suspicions proved bang on correct and although I'm well past wanting her back, I'm kinda caught up on the whole vengeance angle and I'm not doing things for me.

Keep us posted, hope to follow your trail.
 

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Captain said:
Good on you. It's nice to see a post about a cheating girlfriend that doesn't involve the guy asking us how he can get her back, or what he did wrong, or if they really are cheating.
Agreed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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