Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
My gf had an abortion in the past.....what does that say about her?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diablo
Master Don Juan
What you're dating is her. Not her decisions that she made previously in her life. If you feel that you can't live with some of the things that she's done, then go ahead and move on to the next person. If you feel as though value her over her mistakes, then keep the girl around. Don't expect that anybody on this board will be qualified to make these decisions for you, though. Hope this helps a bit.
Walden
Master Don Juan
What a tool.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Either way, I see your question as a poll, not a "what should I do."
For me, I would presume that whatever happened had been a tremendously difficult time for her (if she seemed shallow enough that it wouldn't have been tough, that would factor in).
Otherwise, it is not a big deal to me.
Player_Supreme
Banned
So!
It has nothing to do with you.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
There might be a myriad of circumstances in a person's life that would present abortion as a good choice, and it's not up to you to judge that person. Besides, your argument is purely emotional and invalid as it depends on your belief when life begins.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
Really? She got pregnant AAAAAAALL by herself?
Grow up Bunny-Boy! Unless there's some new trick of biology, a guy was present at some point of the conception. It was the fault of TWO people that she got pregnant. You have no idea what dynamic was at work in their relationship at the time. He may have been insistant and paid for the abortion, he might have dumped her. Either way, he wasn't stuck paying child support for the next 18 years.
I think adoption is the perfect option, but being pregnant for 9 months, going to school, dealing with friends, enemies and family can be an overwhelming thing. You'll be able to tell if she's a skank that uses abortion for birth control or if she is a good person caught in a bad situation.
Soma
Banned
It means she likes to fvck bareback style. God bless her slvtty little heart.
I think I'm in love.
Soma
Banned
I always wonder when people say what you just did...
You kill things all day. The very act of living causes suffering and death all around you. The meat you eat. The clothes you wear. Even if you're a vegetarian you're still killing plants. Your body is constantly killing intruding organisms. When you walk in the grass you often step on ants, snails, etc.. Life is life is life and no matter big or small you're snuffing it out, day in and day out.
Why are you ok with that and not ok with killing a human fetus? I'll go one step further and ask, why are you ok with that and not ok with killing a fully grown human? Yes, we are at the top of the food chain, so to speak. Yes, we are more "intelligent", technically, than the animals that inhabit this world. But why do you think humans have more "value"? What determines that "value"?
I'm not asking a general question. When I say "you" I don't mean people in general, I mean YOU.
I'm not saying either is wrong or right I'm just wondering why you think the way you do.
-Soma
tiburon
Banned
This is what it says :
1-) She aint a virgin Eintein
2-) She was honest with you at that time
3-) She does not strongly believe in antibortion laws.........
4-) she could have some drama and trauma inside of her because of the experience that you might not want to deal with!
KEEP IT SIMPLE AND CASUAL!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
it is pretty common place in Australia with the girls that liv la vida loca or when accidents happen as they say
ok your gf will probably have mental and emotional scars from the whole thing
chicks know its murder, right or wrong whatever, whoevers fault it was
she most likely feels a deep sense of guilt and shame concerning this matter
i dont think it's any reason to dump a girl if you really love her and are happy with her.
we have all made mistakes in life.
who are we really to judge others never having walked in their shoes ?
have you had a doctor remove a baby through an abortion procedure from your womb ?
she has to live with that and that is a heavy burden to carry
but none of us can change our past or else we would all be millionaires
peace,
Lost In Translation
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That's all I have to say about that.
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Gio I love you
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.