"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My game doesn't work on ugly girls

antidonjuan

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Average looking and good looking girls have interest in me. However I discovered that I am getting more and more disliked by my ugly, nerdy female friends for some reason.

For some reason ugly girls hate my confident ****y attitude, I am afraid that some day they will say bad things about me.

Whenever I flirt with girls with my ****y attitude, those ugly female friends interpret it as disrespect.

I wanna ditch my group (lunch) because half of them are nerdy and dont understand my game; but I share similar academic interest as them.

What should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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theunflushables

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Trade them in. You don't hang on to you crappy 89 Toyota Carolla just because it gets decent gas mileage. You can find something just as sleek and hell maybe even better gas mileage. You won't know until you test drive it.
 

jon3947

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who cares if they dont like u
 

defiancy

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Well like Jon I'll say who cares. Also, an arrogant approach is not a great one. If its ****y funny its fine, but straight up ****y just labels you as a person who's full of himself. You might be overdoing the ****iness. For the most part even ugly nerdy girls should at least be decent to you if you're not going overboard.
 

SinJester

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If they were friends before you started becoming a DJ (were they?) then they wont like your change. They would like to pin you down into staying the same person.

Don't worry about it.

Treat the like you do the other girls without showing too much interest and it should go away. Make them laugh.

By the way you don't have to ditch them completely, just split your time between groups.

I might be right but I might not have enough information.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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War Against Betaism

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I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
 

SinJester

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War Against Betaism said:
I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
Unfortunately for me my c/f works on uglies too ;)
 

comic_relief

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antidonjuan said:
What should I do?
it happens, people don't like change. Hell most people would rather die then change. They fear change.

you on the other hand, you embrace change as a natural progression.

They fear as you become a new person, that you will leave them behind in favor of something new. They know that they have less to offer (looks-wise) and are scared of losing you.

Instead of leaving them behind, bring up with you. Lead by example and continually invite them to hang out.

comic_relief
 
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