"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My game doesn't work on ugly girls

antidonjuan

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Average looking and good looking girls have interest in me. However I discovered that I am getting more and more disliked by my ugly, nerdy female friends for some reason.

For some reason ugly girls hate my confident ****y attitude, I am afraid that some day they will say bad things about me.

Whenever I flirt with girls with my ****y attitude, those ugly female friends interpret it as disrespect.

I wanna ditch my group (lunch) because half of them are nerdy and dont understand my game; but I share similar academic interest as them.

What should I do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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theunflushables

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Trade them in. You don't hang on to you crappy 89 Toyota Carolla just because it gets decent gas mileage. You can find something just as sleek and hell maybe even better gas mileage. You won't know until you test drive it.
 

jon3947

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who cares if they dont like u
 

defiancy

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Well like Jon I'll say who cares. Also, an arrogant approach is not a great one. If its ****y funny its fine, but straight up ****y just labels you as a person who's full of himself. You might be overdoing the ****iness. For the most part even ugly nerdy girls should at least be decent to you if you're not going overboard.
 

SinJester

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If they were friends before you started becoming a DJ (were they?) then they wont like your change. They would like to pin you down into staying the same person.

Don't worry about it.

Treat the like you do the other girls without showing too much interest and it should go away. Make them laugh.

By the way you don't have to ditch them completely, just split your time between groups.

I might be right but I might not have enough information.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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War Against Betaism

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I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
 

SinJester

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War Against Betaism said:
I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
Unfortunately for me my c/f works on uglies too ;)
 

comic_relief

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antidonjuan said:
What should I do?
it happens, people don't like change. Hell most people would rather die then change. They fear change.

you on the other hand, you embrace change as a natural progression.

They fear as you become a new person, that you will leave them behind in favor of something new. They know that they have less to offer (looks-wise) and are scared of losing you.

Instead of leaving them behind, bring up with you. Lead by example and continually invite them to hang out.

comic_relief
 
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