Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My game doesn't work on ugly girls

antidonjuan

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Average looking and good looking girls have interest in me. However I discovered that I am getting more and more disliked by my ugly, nerdy female friends for some reason.

For some reason ugly girls hate my confident ****y attitude, I am afraid that some day they will say bad things about me.

Whenever I flirt with girls with my ****y attitude, those ugly female friends interpret it as disrespect.

I wanna ditch my group (lunch) because half of them are nerdy and dont understand my game; but I share similar academic interest as them.

What should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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theunflushables

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Trade them in. You don't hang on to you crappy 89 Toyota Carolla just because it gets decent gas mileage. You can find something just as sleek and hell maybe even better gas mileage. You won't know until you test drive it.
 

jon3947

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who cares if they dont like u
 

defiancy

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Well like Jon I'll say who cares. Also, an arrogant approach is not a great one. If its ****y funny its fine, but straight up ****y just labels you as a person who's full of himself. You might be overdoing the ****iness. For the most part even ugly nerdy girls should at least be decent to you if you're not going overboard.
 

SinJester

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If they were friends before you started becoming a DJ (were they?) then they wont like your change. They would like to pin you down into staying the same person.

Don't worry about it.

Treat the like you do the other girls without showing too much interest and it should go away. Make them laugh.

By the way you don't have to ditch them completely, just split your time between groups.

I might be right but I might not have enough information.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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War Against Betaism

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I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
 

SinJester

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War Against Betaism said:
I've actually noticed this too; the uglier girls respond to my ****y attitude much more lowly than beautiful girls do. I've learned to adapt to different women because of this.
Unfortunately for me my c/f works on uglies too ;)
 

comic_relief

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antidonjuan said:
What should I do?
it happens, people don't like change. Hell most people would rather die then change. They fear change.

you on the other hand, you embrace change as a natural progression.

They fear as you become a new person, that you will leave them behind in favor of something new. They know that they have less to offer (looks-wise) and are scared of losing you.

Instead of leaving them behind, bring up with you. Lead by example and continually invite them to hang out.

comic_relief
 
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